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15 Ways to Fall In Love With Yourself

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“I love myself.” That sounds a bit silly (and I doubt anyone would ever say it out loud), but self-love isn’t reserved for the egomaniacs of the world. Finding the confidence to succeed (or even the courage to start) is very difficult if you don’t love yourself. If you’re ready to swoon your hot self, keep on reading.

1. Stop Beating Yourself Up

Would you say the things you think about yourself to another person? If not, you owe yourself an apology. How could you love a person who believes such nasty things about you? Even if you did mess up, get over it. Big goof that’s mostly irrelevant? Laugh at it. Serious mistake that had repercussions? Learn from it. The important thing is to drop your baggage and move on.

2. Think Positive

Focus on your strengths (instead of your weaknesses). Leap out of bed (don’t crawl out of it). Look at every day as a new opportunity (not the same old story).

3. Be Thankful

Be aware of all the things you should be thankful for. Make note of the people, places, things and activities that bring you the most joy. If you slow down, you’ll realize you have an awful lot to be thankful for.

4. Learn and Grow

Developing your knowledge and skills will help you develop a healthy swagger and confidence that you can do anything.

5. Accept Your Flaws/Quirks/Weirdness

My penmanship sucks, I can’t ride a bike, I am only good at cooking three things (spaghetti/omelets/sandwiches) and I have an irrational fear of bees (which is so bad that I once drove my car into a stop sign after one flew into an open window on a summer day). And you know what? I wouldn’t change any of that. Be confident in yourself, no matter how “weird” (interesting and unique) you may be.

6. Use Your Strengths

Think about the top three accomplishments in your life. I don’t care how big or little they are. It could be graduating college, landing a sweet job, getting your first business client, winning an award, losing weight, or whatever. Now write down the strengths you used to accomplish those three things. See any common threads that led to achievement? If so, the path to more success is right in front of you. Use the strengths that have been proven to work if you want to boost belief in yourself make your weaknesses irrelevant.

7. No More Comparisons

Forget about the celebrities you compare your body to, the relationships you contrast yours with, and the people you are so obsessed with pleasing. Life is not a competition. Your only goal is to become a better version of yourself.

8. Be Comfortable in Your Skin

Yes, build a body that makes you feel strong and confident, but forget about any preconceived notions about what you “should look like.” The only person who gets to decide what “hot” and “sexy” means is you.

9. Chill Out

Why are you always in such a hurry? It is okay (and in fact necessary) to relax. Our brains can only handle so much. Quiet your inner-chatter, shut off all distractions, prepare a bubble bath, and get in with a good book. You earned it.

10. Pat Yourself on the Back

We are quick to judge ourselves for our mistakes yet we never seem to celebrate ourselves for our successes. Success doesn’t come in the form of a life-altering Big Victory; instead, the path to success typically includes a whole lot of small victories. Be happy with every victory, no matter how small you might think it is, because this will help you feel confident and keep moving forward.

11. Take Care of Your Body

Everything you eat has an influence on your mood and energy levels. If you’re feeling depressed and exhausted, take an honest look at what you are eating. Everyone reacts differently to different foods, but with experimentation you can discover the fuel that results in the best performance.

12. Dance

Dance parties are always good ideas. Who says you need a partner? Crank up some 80’s jams or show-tunes and get moving. You might feel silly—you might even laugh at yourself—but it will be fun (and you know it).

13. Have Fun

Life is not meant to be a never-ending to-do list. What makes you feel happy and excited? Do more of that. And before you claim you “don’t have the time,” please realize that there is no such thing as “enough time in the day.” There is, however, a thing called priorities and making the time for fun is a priority if you want to be happy.

14. Pay Attention

When is the last time you really looked at the full moon and shining stars in the pitch black sky? What about the trees in your backyard that are the size of prehistoric dinosaurs? Have you picked a flower at the park lately (for the purpose of nasal delight or hair decoration)? You are surrounded by beautiful things.

15. Smile

Smile because you are worthy of love and happiness and free to have as much as your heart desires (and also you’re going to have a hard time staying sad with that cute grin plastered on your face).

How to Fall in Love with Yourself Again

Do you struggle with self worth? Do you feel like sometimes you just aren’t good enough? Have you ever wondered what life would be like if you could learn how to love yourself again? There have been days where I would tell myself that I was worthless, that I would never find happiness within myself again.

If you didn’t know, I am a college dropout and for the longest time I felt stuck in my life. My confidence was non-existent. Most days I felt like a failure. One day I decided it was time to change my attitude and mindset. Since that day, I have fallen in love with myself again. Not only has this helped my mental health, but it’s also allowed me to pursue my passions whole-heartedly! Today I want to share the best 9 ways to love yourself again.

1. How to love yourself through positive affirmations

I am a huge fan of affirmations. There’s just something about them that make me feel good! Try to start your day off by writing down 10 positive affirmations. You can even try to write down 10 things you love about yourself too! This is a great way to not only start your day on a positive note, but to reflect on the things you truly love about yourself rather than focusing on anything negative.

Some of my favorite affirmations:

2. If you want to love yourself again, stop comparing

I think it’s safe to say that we ALL play the comparison game at some point. Can you admit that you have looked at someone else and said “wow, I wish I was as pretty as her.” OR “wow, I wish I had a nice car like that.” In order to love yourself again you need to stop comparing and start appreciating.

It’s so easy to accidentally compare yourself without even realizing that you are! BUT, comparison steals your peace and happiness. It also makes you feel like you aren’t good enough when you really are! It fills our mind with self doubt.

You also have to remember, we don’t all walk the same path and we all have gone through some crap to get where we are today. Be proud of yourself every step of the way.

3. It’s important to do things you love

If you want to love yourself again, start doing things you love and enjoy! Growing up I always loved to go hiking with my family and spend time enjoying nature. Something about nature is so freeing to me. I also loved to write! Now that I am older it’s harder to make time to enjoy doing things I really love. It’s important that I make time for the things I love to do. Starting my blog has played a huge role in loving myself again.

4. Have self care dates (by yourself)

I am a huge fan of self care and I think it’s important when it comes to learning how to love yourself again, to practice self care. One thing I like to do is have self care dates by myself. At first I felt strange going on dates by myself. In fact, I even felt embarrassed. BUT, taking these self care dates alone helped to build my confidence and helped me be okay with being by myself. I love who I am and I love spending time by myself.

What dates can you do by yourself?

These are just a few ideas!

5. Eliminate your limiting beliefs and change your mindset

When I was fighting my darkest days, my mindset was at it’s worst. Being a full time waitress and college drop out made me feel stuck and worthless. I felt like I didn’t have real purpose. Constantly I would say things like, “I will never be successful.” or “I will never find a job I love, I am not qualified.” Or I would say things like, “Why should anyone love me? I am worthless.” The more I repeated those words to myself, the more I started to believe them.

I encourage you to change your mindset and reword your thinking. You truly are what you THINK you are!

“I will be successful and have a job I love.”

“I am not worthless and I am worthy of love.”

“I am capable of having a life that I love and I am qualified to score my dream job.”

Believing in myself and in my abilities was a complete game changer. I started going after my dreams of being my own boss and being a full time blogger about 2 years ago. Since changing my mindset, I have been able to accomplish this dream. I now blog full time for a living and work for myself.

I am telling you, a positive mindset is the BEST mindset to have.

6. Celebrate all your wins, both big and small

I can’t stress this enough. It’s so easy to feel like we aren’t making any progress and it can be extremely defeating. BUT, when we take a step back and actually realize the progress we’ve made since the beginning, it can be eye opening. In order to love yourself again, make sure you are celebrating ALL of your wins!

Sometimes you need to be your own cheerleader and there is nothing wrong with that! Celebrate all wins, both big and small! Every step of the way is worth celebrating! It can make a huge difference when it comes to your self esteem and falling in love with yourself again.

7. Love yourself through journaling

As you know, I LOVE to write. Journaling daily can really help you reconnect with yourself. It also brings out those inner thoughts that might be holding you back or blocking you from loving yourself completely. Different journaling exercises can help you let go of all the negativity and really learn how to love yourself again.

I put together a few journal challenges here:

8. Try something new and do something that scares you

Have you ever been wanting to try something new but maybe fear held you back? It’s time to become fearless! I find that trying something new can create this new sense of “Damn, I am brave.” There is something so empowering about facing your fears! I encourage you to do something that you are afraid to do!

9. Practice healthy habits daily

I will be the first to admit that my habits weren’t always the healthiest. Once I started to change my habits like drinking more water, get enough sleep, be active when I can. These little changes in my everyday routine made a huge difference when it came to my mental health and feeling happier each day. I also started to feel good about myself and really love who I am.

I hope you found these tips helpful. Always remember, you are worthy, you are capable of achieving your wildest of dreams, you are beautiful and you have a purpose and you deserve to love yourself completely.

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Whenever we think of falling in love we always imagine another person involved. It even feels awkward to utter the phrase “I’m starting to fall in love with myself”. Try it on for size and I bet it’ll feel like shirt that’s too small, something about it just doesn’t feel right.
We’ve all reached the point of needing to love ourselves more. Maybe the thought arose after you’ve been taking care of another person for too long, or maybe you’re just burnt out and need to pour some energy back into yourself.

You’re feeling drained, wiped, out of touch and something just feels a little off. Sometimes a little love is all you need. A dash of that feeling has the potential to take on a life of its own.

You’ve felt love, usually for another. This time we’re going to flip the script and direct this awesome force back to the one who deserves it the most, you.

You Already Know How to Love Yourself, You’ve Just Forgotten

If you don’t love the place you’re at or the person you’ve become, it’s not your fault. The act of loving is a simple process you can reignite and start again. The beauty is once you ignite the spark of love in your life, it can start a fire that can be hard to turn off.

Even a torrential downpour will have a hard time turning off your love. Once you learn the art of filling yourself up, you’ll no longer have to seek out others to turn on that feeling in you. You won’t feel like you have to chase love, or there’s ever a lack of it in your life.

To use a beautiful illustration. Pretend you’re a bucket and you’re trying to fill someone else up. You try and try but at the end of the day you’re still empty. You want to learn how to create your own faucet. That way you can fill yourself up whenever you’re in need and even give a little extra to a loved one, friend, or stranger.

It’s time to unveil the art of loving.

Taking a deep breath is one of the simplest luxuries we can give ourselves. When we breathe deeply we activate the relaxation response within our bodies, which turns on our recovery mechanisms. When the body is relaxing it puts our mind at ease. Face it, no one like to be a bundled up ball of stress.

Stress produces cortisol, which is incredibly bad for your body, and acts as a cancer causing agent. Definitely not the product of someone loving themselves.

So, take a deep breath and let it out slow. Focus on the moment and give your body and mind a treat.

2. Give yourself a hug.

When giving a hug, your body releases the feel-good chemical oxytocin. Oxytocin is also known as the love chemical.

Imagine you’re about to hug someone you have the deepest love for. Maybe it’s a long lost love, or a family member you haven’t seen in a while. Imagine the powerful force of this hug and how you would feel the moment before impact.

Channel this feeling into yourself. Wrap your arms around yourself as you would them. Imagine them giving you love back. Really take some time to feel it deeply. The more real you make it the more its power will stick with you.

Eventually, the love you’re pretending to exchange with another should be the same level of love you feel for yourself.

3. Give yourself a compliment.

What’s something you truly love about yourself? It could be your drive or ambition, or your friendliness and openness. It could even be your luscious curly hair. The only catch is you have to mean it. Really feel the love shower upon you as you give yourself this compliment.

It might feel strange to verbally give yourself a compliment, but it’s important. You must push through the discomfort and really take the compliment. What emotions does it trigger? Does it make you laugh, smile or feel funny?

Let the feeling rush over you. Take the compliment, there’s many more to come.

4. Turn off your phone, unplug.

The immense amount of time we spend with our devices can actually leave us feeling worse about ourselves. The constant stream of false positiveness streaming down your Facebook wall can leave you feeling drained and awful. The world can fill us up with life, if we let it.

When we’re wrapped up in virtual worlds, we allow the subtle beauty that’s unfolding around us to pass us by. The smile of a stranger, the wag of a dogs tail, a leaf slowly twirling to the ground. We miss everything.

When we’re actually aware of the world around us we can gain new insights about ourselves and the nature of how things unfold. Take some time and be a part of it. Take a breath and try being present.

Sending that text can wait.

A healthy body is one that’s treated with love and respect. Walking gives us time to process the world around us. The act of walking gives you time to breathe and contemplate your future. Some of the greatest minds of our world were avid workers, Albert Einstein and Henry David Thoreau, just to name a few. How would you like to join the class of these fine men?

Walking can even be taken up as a form of meditation. Focusing on each step fully draws you into the moment. Try and cultivate your gratitude for the ability to take a slow stroll. Your worries melt away and you begin to uncover the self love you’ve always had.

In changing your body physiology you actually bring more happiness into your life. When you smile imagine the force of your smile bringing a warmth throughout your entire body. Let your smile fill with gratitude and joy for every aspect of yourself.

Imagine you were smiling at the love of your life, take this passion and throw it into your upward grin.

Now unleash the force of your smile onto yourself.

7. Write down a big dream of yours and take a step towards it, now.

Take out a sheet of paper and title it “My Biggest Dreams”, and dream away.

Let the pen run and see where it takes you. Hold an attitude of openness, and don’t judge anything that comes out.

Once you’ve spilled your guts onto the page, relax for a moment and let it simmer. See what jumps out at you the most. Something you’ve written will ring true and make you emotional. This is where you want to stake your claim.

Once you’ve found the hidden gem, take one step towards making it real. The momentum will bring you to life.

Often we spoil others with our gifts, even if it just happens to be our attention. This time do something to spoil yourself. It could be a going out to a meal you love, or visiting a place you love to go.

Think of it like taking yourself on a date. We all know you deserve it.

9. Write down five things you love about yourself.

This is an extension of giving yourself a compliment. If you’ve passed #3 with flying colors then you’re ready for this step. Your goal here is to find more things you love about yourself and write them down.

Don’t do this half assed. You must truly mean each thing you write down about yourself.

10. Look in the mirror and say, “I love myself”.

This is taking loving yourself to the next level. Open your eyes and gaze deeply into one of your eyes (it’s impossible to do both at once), and feel the love coming from within.

Imagine you were uttering this phrase to someone you love deeply.

Say it out loud as many times as possible. Engage with it fully. The more intensely you feel it, the more love it will bring back to you.

11. Send a note of gratitude to someone you love.

When you share your love it always finds a way to come back to you. Sometimes giving away your love makes it come back tenfold. Think of someone you care deeply about and tell them.

Tell them what you love about them, the little things they do that you appreciate and make your day.

Now you have a plethora of ways to open up your heart to yourself. Begin now, and start small. Soon you’ll be overflowing with abundance and love.

Now that you are on the path to falling in love with yourself make sure you take some time to find out how to accept your destiny and build the ultimate form of confidence.

8 POWERFUL Ways to Fall in Love with Yourself

As lovable as you are, falling in love with yourself should be easy, but we aren’t good at it because we spend too much time vying for others’ love and approval instead of our own.

Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfilment from inside out.
– Alan Cohen

Have you ever thought about how much you love yourself?

Maybe your family or friends.

But we seldom think about the love we give to ourselves.

When you completely love yourself, you accept as you are, know you’re good enough, enjoy being own company, become confident and untimately live a happy life.

You don’t worry about other people’s opinion of you or rely on others to make you happy.

You have you all the time!

I used to be overly critical of myself.

I had a good excuse: I had expected a lot from me. Which is not a bad thing in itself.

But when it becomes too critical and you’re always hard on you, you start disliking you and feel inadequate.

Your modus operandi becomes finding a fault in you.

I realised that’s not a good way of treating myself.

I had to win myself over first, before anyone or anything else.

When our loved one is cross with us, we attempt to put things right.

We bend over backwards to make them forgive us and give us one more chance.

We try to charm our way back into their heart in every way possible.

Yet, we rarely make the same effort to love ourselves.

I say it’s time to be selfish and give love we deserve to ourselves.

8 POWERFUL Ways to Fall in Love with Yourself

1. Say Nice Things to Yourself: 24/7

Do you remember the last time when someone told you how special you are?

Didn’t it make you feel like walking on clouds?

Imagine having the same feeling all the time.

A little voice in your head tells you every day how unique you are, how lovable you look, and how no one can do you better than you.

The pleasant narrative within you uplifts your spirits and puts a spring in your step everywhere you go.

2. “I Liked…”

Review your day at the end of a long workday.

Lie in bed, empty your mind, stay relaxed and, with a smile on your face, tell yourself what specifically you liked about what you did that day.

I liked you had lots of vegetables tonight.

I liked you finished your most two important tasks first thing in the morning – good girl!

I liked you did your 100 squats today.

Remind you of all the little things you’ve achieved, how capable and dependable you are.

That’s how you build trust with you, grow your confidence and feel good about yourself.

You can’t help but love yourself.

3. Be Kind to Others

The old adage: treat people as you’d like to be treated.

Who doesn’t like kind people, right?

When I’m in my local grocery store, I can’t help but look for a cashier who is pleasant, standing tall and always joking while serving customers.

His jolly demeanour is hard to ignore, putting a smile on my face every time.

I make sure my parting words are warm-hearted for him too.

When you’re nice and kind, you attract good people and good things to your life.

You become more generous and kinder toward yourself too, because you’re happy by all the positive things you attract.

4. Be Open to Others’ Love

When you’re too critical of you, you may not see superb qualities about you that others see.

When people who know you well pay you compliments, thank them and accept them at face value.

Imagine what they see in you until you realise, “ah yes, I have those qualities, don’t I?”.

Allow yourself to focus on your fine qualities, let them wash over you and feel good about yourself.

When you’re receptive to others’ love, it becomes easier to accept you and love you.

It’s obvious you have SO much in you to love you.

5. Be Agreeable with Yourself

Don’t hold a grudge against you.

Don’t get upset with you.

Whatever the internal argument you have with yourself, let it go quickly.

Don’t entertain all those thoughts of “would’ve, should’ve or could’ve” with yourself.

Change the internal dialogue to something positive, uplifting, and forward-looking.

I’m glad the relationship didn’t work out because I learned a lot about myself. I have so much love to give to the right person and look forward to meeting him soon.

Now, wouldn’t you love yourself more for that positive attitude alone?

6. Treat Yourself Like Royalty

Take yourself on a date.

Go and watch the latest movie.

Treat yourself with a huge popcorn.

Go and sit in your favourite restaurant, read a book and enjoy peace and quiet and a fine meal.

Doing things alone without a care in the world gives you a great feeling of contentment.

You’ll love yourself more when you feel comfortable being you, being able to enjoy things on your own and with others.

Discover how brilliant company you are and love you more for it!

7. You can Become More

You’re good enough as you are, no matter where you are in your life.

But if you want to become more because you can grow day after day, give yourself a chance to learn, adapt, expand and become more every day.

So, you have bad habits?

Or some aspect of your life isn’t up to your standard?

You can always change and be better.

Change is easy when you let it be.

As easy as fall in love with a better version of you each day.

8. Give Yourself a Good Night’s Sleep

Next time when you walk around with brain fog because of sleep deprivation, you owe an apology to yourself.

Sorry – I mistreated you. I love you too much to let you suffer like this again. I’ll give you 8 hours sleep tonight: I promise.

And keep the promise!

We Brits love to say, “a cup of tea makes everything better”.

I want to add, “… and sound sleep makes everything perfect.”

Give yourself a full rest. You’ll love yourself a little more than the previous day!

Final Thoughts

When you do everything mentioned above, it’s impossible not to fall in love with yourself.

Be a master of self-love with these simple things.

Remember, no one can love you as much as you love yourself.

It is truly the best kind of love you can ever gift to yourself and it’s the fast track to a happy life.

How to Fall In Love With Yourself

When you fall in love with yourself you gain a deep appreciation of your own worth and capabilities. Falling in love with yourself also means that you genuinely like yourself, and you enjoy spending time alone.

“To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance.” – Oscar Wilde

There’s a lot of emphasis in our culture on romantic love. A lot of people think that finding the right partner will somehow make them “whole”, fill an inner void, and solve all of their problems.

However, another person can never do all of these things for you. You have to do them for yourself. That is, you have to fall in love with yourself. Falling in love with yourself will allow you to do all of the following:

Sounds great, doesn’t it? So, how does one fall in love with oneself? I’ll tell you. Below you’ll find 10 ways to fall in love with yourself.

1. Make a List of Your Accomplishments

We all have to-do list filled with all of the things that we need to get done. How about creating a list of all the things we’ve already accomplished?

Everyone should keep a running list of their accomplishments. This has numerous benefits, including the following:

Feeling good about yourself will certainly help you to love yourself more.

2. Talk to Yourself How You Talk to People You Care About

I have two young nephews. When they were very small I discovered that if I softened my voice when I spoke to them, and I spoke sweetly, they were more likely to pay attention to what I was saying. In addition, they would soften their own demeanor toward me and I was more likely to get smiles, hugs, and kisses from them.

Lately I’ve been making it a point to make my inner voice use the same “tone of voice” that I use with my nephews. That is, I speak to myself—in my head—in a sweet, tender tone. And I can’t tell you how nice it is to have a soft-spoken person inside your head.

Of course, it’s not just the tone of voice that you use with yourself that’s important, but also the kinds of things that you say to yourself. Fall in love with yourself by saying positive, uplifting things to yourself and speaking sweetly to yourself.

3. See Yourself Through the Eyes of Someone Who Loves You

Think of someone who loves you—this can be your spouse, your child, your best friend, or an admirer. Picture that person standing there, looking at you.

This exercise will allow you to focus on your good points, instead of dismissing them or taking them from granted. It will also help you realize how much there is in you to love.

4. If There’s Something You Don’t Like About Yourself, Change It

If there’s something you don’t like about somebody else, there’s very little you can do about it. However, if there’s something you don’t like about yourself, you can change it.

I grew up with a very critical father, so I have a tendency to be critical myself. A couple of years ago I decided that I didn’t like this about myself. Therefore, I decided to change it. I began monitoring what I was thinking and I stopped myself every time I realized that I was judging someone.

In addition, when I was talking to others I started being more careful with what I said to them, and how I said it, so that it wouldn’t sound critical. As a result of this effort, I am now much less critical than I used to be.

That is, I’m much closer to the kind of person I want to be, which makes me love myself more. Fall in love with yourself by working on yourself.

5. Fall in Love With Yourself by Working on Your Self-Trust

If you’re with someone and that person is constantly lying to you and letting you down, how much love would you feel toward that person? Probably not much. However, we do these things to ourselves all the time.

To be able to fully love yourself you have to know that you can trust yourself. You can increase your self-trust by doing the following:

The more you trust yourself—the more you realize that you will always have your back–the more you can love yourself. Fall in love with yourself by making sure you can rely on yourself.

6. Take Yourself Out On Dates

My favorite food in the whole world is Indian food. There’s an Indian restaurant here in Panama that I always ask to be taken to on special occasions, and the other day I decided to go alone.

Lately I’ve become obsessed with Shakespeare, so I picked up my copy of Shakespeare’s Henry IV Part I, along with Asimov’s Guide to Shakespeare, and headed over to the Indian restaurant.

When I was done having lunch—which was fantastic–I went to a different place to have chocolate crepes for dessert (topped with strawberries and accompanied with a cappuccino, of course). I then went home and watched “The Hollow Crown”, a film adaptation of Henry IV Part I.

I had a lovely time, and it reminded me of what great company I am. 🙂

7. Treat Yo’ Self

I love giving gifts to people I care about. When I was living in Florence, Italy, my mother sent me money so that I could buy some things for myself. I used the money to get gifts for everyone back home.

When I decided that I was going to add myself to the list of people whom I love, I started getting gifts for myself. Not all the time, of course, and not extravagant gifts, but if there’s something that I really want, I treat myself.

The last time that I treated myself was about three weeks ago. I bought an acupressure mat called Spoonk. I lie down on my Spoonk for about twenty or thirty minutes every night before falling asleep. As I lie down on it and feel myself relaxing almost immediately, I invariably think:

“I’m so glad I got this for myself!”

Pampering yourself is a great way to show yourself some love.

8. Develop Positive Habits

I’ve developed many positive habits over the years. Here are some of them:

How can I not love myself when I take such good care of myself? Love yourself more by developing positive habits.

9. Listen to Yourself

We tend to be so outwardly focused—listening to other people, watching the news, reading, and so on—that a lot of the time we fail to stop and turn inward. That is, we fail to listen to ourselves. Yet one of the best ways to make ourselves feel loved is to listen to what we have to say.

One of the best ways to listen to yourself is to journal. Two journaling methods you may want to try are proprioceptive writing—a method for exploring the mind through writing–and morning pages, three pages of stream of consciousness writing which is done first thing in the morning.

Build a better relationship with yourself—and fall in love with yourself—by listening to yourself.

10. Ask Yourself What You Need

Ask yourself the following:

How would you feel about someone who’s attuned to your needs, and then does their best to fill those needs? I don’t know about you, but I’d have an easy time falling in love with that person. Find out what you need, and then give it to yourself. Fall in love with yourself by fulfilling your needs.

Conclusion

Doesn’t the person above sound wonderful? They’re accomplished, they speak kindly to you, they listen to you, they’re attuned to your needs, they take good care of you, they take you out on fun dates, they’re trustworthy, and they even give you great gifts!

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