How and why to play hard to get

How to Play Hard to Get and Why It Works

Playing hard to get is a way to get the instant advantage in nearly every relationship, be that personal or business. If you ever wondered why despite your meaningful contributions at work or at home you’ve been taken for granted, or why people you like never seem to stick around, while you couldn’t get rid of those you didn’t care for, this article is for you.

Playing hard to get is based on understanding of human nature. It is not about your colleagues, family or person you are interested in, it is about what YOU are doing. And this is the good news because you can change what you are doing and get different results.

Let us see what actions leaded to the unwanted results. Once you realize how these particular dynamics work, you can do all the right moves to get the treatment you want.

First of all, you failed to apply the law of scarcity, which says that what is plentiful is often unappreciated and what is rare and scarce is considered valuable. Think water and diamonds. Water is irreplaceable, but because it is easily available, it is cheap or even free. Diamonds are not a life necessity, but you are ready to pay your hard earned money for it because diamonds are rare. So, make conclusions. Do not be available at all times. You have other things to do. You have more fun things to do, or maybe even more important things to do. Leave early, find or make up the reasons to be absent from time to time. In other words, make them appreciate you when you are there and long for you when you aren’t with them.

Second, you behaved as if you are the one who needs them. You let them know that you are desperate for their approval and acceptance, as if there were no other options available to you. When you present yourself in such a manner, it is very difficult to see you as a treasure or a great catch. You gave them power to decide how you will feel about yourself, or how happy and/or confident you will be.

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In your love relationships playing hard to get boils down to this: behave with the person you like the way you behave with the person you are not interested in. With someone you are not interested in you are very assertive — you may or may not pick up the phone; you see them only when there is nothing better to do. You don’t go out of your way to meet them. You look at them objectively, you have plenty of perspective. You do not justify their flaws and don’t settle for the things you don’t like. You are not deluding yourself. You don’t behave as if s/he is be-all end-all of your life. You live high quality life outside of the relationship. This attitude challenges them and makes them perceive you as more attractive. Now they want to win you over.

However, when playing hard to get do not forget one important point where lots of people do mistakes: You still need to take care how you make them feel. If you want them, you need to be a source of their pleasure. If you constantly hurt them, make them feel bad about themselves, they will eventually give up on you and leave you. To get what you want you need to make them feel there is hope, that they could possibly win you over. So, do not be rude or arrogant — be pleasant to be around.

The game doesn’t finish with commitment. To keep passion alive, you still need to be alert. Sure you can relax and experience closeness and intimacy, express your feelings. But only sometimes. You can’t stay in this state all your life, otherwise your partner is likely to get bored. This is why over and over again you return to a subtle version of playing hard to get. You have your career, you have your hobbies, you’ve got plenty of interests outside of the relationship. Your life is balanced. If you don’t do it, if you will be always available behaving like he or she is be-all end-all of your life, the person’s excitement of having you will diminish. Like water, you will be under-appreciated. Now he or she thinks you will be always there. Little by little the passion extinguishes and he or she doesn’t feel happy anymore. Life with you is not fun, it is boring and predictable. Some people may even start looking for someone else. To prevent that you need to introduce the element of uncertainty, just a touch of danger. One day you may be gone, so they better watch out how they treat you.

Contrary to what many people believe, this tactic is not about being hurtful, rather it is about making people excited about having you.

How to Play Hard to Get

This article was co-authored by Louie Felix. Louie Felix is a Dating Coach and Matchmaker, and the founder and CEO of Matchmaking VIP, a company which provides concierge-level matchmaking services to clients around the world. He is also the COO of Agape Matchmaking based in New York City. With almost 16 years of professional matchmaking and dating coaching experience, Louie has served as CEO for the United States’ two largest matchmaking companies serving over 50,000 clients. He has been featured as an expert matchmaker for shows on E! Entertainment Television, WeTV and the CW. He was also recently acknowledged as a top 5 worldwide matchmaker by both the International Dating Conference and the Matchmakers Alliance. Louie was also selected as one of America’s top 10 Relationship Experts for the Great Love Debate National Tour.

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The best way to play hard to get is to actually be hard to get. You’re wonderful and you deserve someone special. Give your crush space by spending some time apart from your phone and let your crush be the first one to make major moves. Balance this out by giving your crush hints of attention, so they don’t think you don’t like them. Keep yourself busy with hobbies, self-care, and dating other people if you feel comfortable. Boost your confidence by spending time with friends and family who love you. You’ll feel great and get your crush’s attention in no time.

Playing Hard to Get: Not Just a Game

By Kate Spring

This topic has come to my attention a lot lately without being perceived as desperate. And while I have another article on ways to avoid seeming desperate, I thought I would focus on this subject, more in depth, so that I can help you to gain some control in your dating life. And that is how to play hard to get with a girl.

I’ll be honest, in the beginning, I thought playing hard to get was beneath me, a complete waste of my time and other people’s time, too. However, over the years, I have come to understand that playing hard to get, when used correctly and appropriately, is, in fact, not a game.

On the contrary, it is a way to increase your dating value by creating some desire and demand for you by women. So in this article, we will look at why playing hard to get works and how you can do it.

First, let’s start with what playing hard to get can do for you and what it achieves:

I should also clarify something and that is that playing hard to get is neither intended nor useful in securing a one night stand, fling, booty call, or a casual encounter. Those types of relationships focus on immediacy and instant gratification.

Playing hard to get is, however, useful in creating attraction in a potential long term relationship. It creates tension through the give and take of attention.

Why Playing Hard To Get Works

The best way that I have come to understand why playing hard to get works is from Robert B. Cialdini. In his book, Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion, he suggests that there are six principles that influence persuasion: reciprocity, commitment/consistency, social proof, authority, liking, scarcity. Why I bring this up is because of the sixth principle, scarcity.

In business, and in all things related to life, people are more likely to acquire something if they know there is little of it available and if it is difficult to obtain.

If we apply this same principle to people, we can begin to understand why not being readily available to people makes them more likeable and desirable. It’s the simple law of supply and demand. When the supply is scarce, the demand is great and so is the product’s value.

Playing hard to get is not meant to be a game, or turn into anything negative. The intention behind playing hard to get is asserting your value and setting a standard of how you want to be treated. It is all part of creating attraction and building that want and desire in a girl to be with you. If you make yourself scarce, you let people know that you’re valuable, and, in dating, that is everything.

Let’s think of it this way, if you were to eat at McDonald’s every day, would it still be as exciting to you if you were to only eat it once a week or even just one a month? My guess is that it wouldn’t be that exciting and or even special; it would become routine and expected.

Scarcity creates demand in business and in relationships. Relationships that start off in the heat of passion—and are all consuming—have an expiry date. In time, one party usually ends up getting sick of the other one. Spending time together all day every day doesn’t allow for any time to miss one another. And that is key in the beginning stages of any romantic relationship.

That is where playing hard to get comes in because it creates a desire in each other to want to be together. Time apart, like distance, makes the heart grow fond.

So let’s discuss some ways to play hard to get. But, remember, you’re not playing impossible to get; you’re letting people know that you have a life and are not readily available at a moment’s notice. You need to give into the chase in order to keep her around.

How To Play Hard To Get

Alright, those are just five ways to play hard to get and those should get you started.

Remember that playing hard to get, if you have good intentions, is one of the best ways to avoid seeming desperate to a woman, and it is a surefire way to build attraction with her.

Kate Spring

Kate Spring is a men’s dating & attraction coach from Vancouver, Canada. A recognized leader in helping men become irresistible to women, Kate works with clients from around the world, helping them to get the girl they want, and the relationship they deserve. Kate is the best-selling author of The Obsession Method, an award-winning attraction-building program. She also runs a popular men’s dating advice channel on YouTube, with over 125,000 subscribers and nearly 15 million views to date.

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‘Treat them mean, keep them keen.’

Dating advice like this has been around for years, but how are you meant to do it without just being… mean?

What is the right way to push them away, and when will they just give up and stop chasing?

Playing hard to get is full of nuance and subtlety and not always easy to pull off, which is why we’ve put together our top 8 tips to keep them chasing…

1. Keep it playful.

The whole point of playing hard to get is that you and your crush are both having fun playing a bit of a game.

And play is meant to be light-hearted!

Make it a bit flirty, send some cute messages or emojis and be silly with it.

You can send little teasing texts. Maybe send a photo of a cute outfit you’re going to wear for your next date and then leave them to look forward to seeing you in it.

However you choose to do it, make sure it’s enjoyable for both of you.

Sure, you can tease them or wind them up a little bit, but make sure you’re not hurting their feelings along the way!

They should be left wanting more of your time and attention, not needing it.

2. Make yourself the priority.

This is something that will really help you while you’re dating, but can also help them.

If you’ve got plans with friends and don’t want to be on your phone, tell them.

Text your crush to say you’ve got something fun happening so won’t be on your phone for a couple of hours.

This shows them that you’ve got a social life beyond just texting them, which will make you even more attractive.

It serves as a reminder to you that you don’t need to be available all the time (something most of us are guilty of during the early days of a relationship!), and lets them know what to expect going forwards.

It’s a good way to keep them excited for when you do then text later on, and it sets the expectations for both of you that you’re not the kind of person to wait by your phone all day!

3. Gauge their boundaries.

So, the key here is to find a balance between keeping them entertained and keeping them guessing.

It’s worth gauging how they feel and what their expectations are before you play this game!

You might find out that they will genuinely become upset or frustrated if you don’t text back for a couple of days.

If so, try to avoid this as you don’t want to hurt their feelings.

You’re doing this because you like them and want to get to know them more, after all.

It may be that a few hours is enough to keep them chasing you, in which case you can play around with that.

Playing hard to get doesn’t mean totally blocking this person from having any kind of access to you…

…it just means that you keep them wanting a bit more from you – but not at the expense of their confidence, self-worth, or interest in you!

4. Keep it balanced.

It can be really easy to think that playing hard to get means that the other person has to put in all the effort.

Sure, it’s fun to be wanted and to be chased, but not if the other person ends up thinking that this is your personality type!

If it feels like a game and you keep making an effort with them, you’re doing it right.

If you always leave them on read, shut down conversations, or give them a bit too much sass, they might start to question the kind of person you really are.

You don’t want to give off the impression that you’ll never be interested in them – nobody wants to feel that way from the person they’re dating or in a relationship with.

Instead, make an effort, give them some attention and don’t expect them to throw themselves 100% into just getting a response from you.

It’s not fair on either of you and may lead to them resenting you for it and not wanting to date you anymore – definitely not the intended outcome!

5. Physically play hard to get.

If you want to keep getting to know your crush and want to build some tension (the good kind!) between the two of you, try holding off on getting physical for a little while.

That’s not to say you should be cold and hostile toward them, but that you can just tease them a little bit rather than sleeping with them straight away.

Let that anticipation grow by giving them a cheeky kiss at the end of the night, or letting them know you’ve thought about sleeping with them.

This will give them just enough to feel like you’re interested in them, but will keep them wanting more.

They’ll keep chasing, keep getting to know you, and, by the time you do sleep together, you’ll have probably bonded over just getting to know each other more anyway.

Small things like touching their arm or their knee can keep the heat between the two of you without you actually sleeping together.

The anticipation will probably be fun for both of you, so play around with it and see what feels good.

6. Give them space to miss you.

If you’ve been dating for a few weeks and want to play a bit hard to get, make sure you take some time for yourself every so often.

It can be really easy to get caught up in the early stages of dating and end up spending all your time together!

But, to keep them on their toes and chasing you, add a little bit of distance into the mix every so often.

Maybe make plans for the weekend that don’t involve them.

It’s not that you don’t want to see them, it’s just giving them some time to realize they’d rather be with you!

This time apart will make them miss you and want to be around you even more.

By playing hard to get like this, they’ll be chasing you and be really excited to get to see you again.

Time apart will make you both appreciate the time you do spend together and will make it feel more special and sacred.

Plus, it gives you both a little breather to do your own thing and focus on your separate lives – which is so important in every relationship and will help you build a strong foundation together, rather than risk building a codependent one.

7. Keep busy.

People love what they can’t have, so don’t be afraid to turn down plans or make some with other people.

It’s so tempting to clear our calendars when we’re dating someone new, and to get wrapped up in spending all our time with them.

If you want to keep them keen and play hard to get, make sure you stay busy.

The harder you are to get hold of or pin down (within reason!), the more they’ll want to see you.

They’ll also feel pretty special if they’re someone that you make the effort to see despite being super busy – when you make allowances and find some free time to see them, they’ll feel important to you.

This will give them a little confidence boost and will make them even more keen to keep seeing you

Either way, by being a bit more unavailable, you suddenly become a lot more attractive to them.

Get ready to be chased…

8. Know when to stop.

Playing hard to get is all well and good when it’s working – but what if it has the opposite effect?

Some people may get confused by your hot-and-cold personality, or they may feel like you’re playing too many games.

If your crush thinks that you’re not willing to commit because you’re messing them around a bit, they may back off and think that you’re not ready for a relationship.

You don’t want them to think that they’ll never be able to get hold of you over the phone.

Most people are looking for a partner they can rely on, not someone who takes 3 days to respond to a simple ‘Hello’ text.

If you’re interested, make that very clear before you play any games!

While you may be aware of the context of your actions, they might just think that you have changed your mind, or don’t want a relationship that involves physical contact, for example.

Playing hard to get should be something fun and exciting, not a way for you to test how someone feels about you…

So, as it turns out, playing hard to get is a pretty tough game to crack!

Remember to be your genuine self as much as possible – you want them to like you for who you are, after all, not a pretend version of yourself you’re trying to project.

While it’s good and healthy to have plans that involve them, and it’s okay to distance yourself a bit to get them to chase you, make sure your crush knows that you are actually interested in them.

Some people will just give up rather than try harder, so gauge how your crush is feeling, learn when you’ve overstepped their boundaries, and try to keep things fun and light-hearted.

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What does it mean to play hard to get?

When someone plays hard to get, they basically pretend they are not interested in having a romantic or sexual relationship with another person in order to either gauge the other person’s feelings or to make the other person more attracted to them.

It’s almost like a cat-and-mouse game where one minute they are showing their interest in the other person and the next minute they’re acting unavailable, some might even say cold.

A research study by Jonason and Li (2013), “Playing Hard-to-Get: Manipulating One’s Perceived Availability as a Mate,” showed that there are at least 58 behaviors that people exhibit when they’re playing hard to get. Some of these behaviors include:

According to the study, people who perceived the person they have their eye on as a “good catch” were more likely to employ these tactics in order to increase demand for themselves and to test the level of interest of the “good catch.”

Does playing hard to get work?

The reason dating tactics like ‘playing hard to get’ have been around for so long is because they do work. In fact, they work far more often than they fail.

On the other hand, if you’ve ever been on the receiving end of someone acting hot and cold with you, you know firsthand how frustrating this can be if used incorrectly.

But think of it like this: the person playing hard to get is doing so because:

Let’s be fair: being too available is a major turnoff for many people. Who wants to be with someone whose life starts only when you call or see them?

Not to mention, if you expose your feelings to someone who doesn’t feel the same about you, you run the risk of scaring them off.

Our dating rituals foster situations where not only are these games necessary but if you refuse to play, you are viewed as being “easy” or “undesirable.” Who wants to be with someone that no one wants or someone who does not have a life outside of the relationship? If they’re too available, they start to lose their value.

Do guys like it when girls play hard to get?

If you ask the average guy if he likes it when a girl plays hard to get, his immediate response will be a resounding “no.” And in a perfect world, it makes sense. If two people have feelings for one another, why can’t they just be upfront about their feelings and intentions?

The issue usually comes when girls overuse this tactic. Instead of teasing the other person, they behave like they don’t know what they want. Rather than using the tactic to show they’re confident and have an active social life, they use it to play with the other person’s feelings because they feel it will give them the upper hand in the relationship.

Our dating rituals are full of games. Use these games wisely and with caution because no one enjoys feeling played. Playing hard to get for too long or being too extreme with it will just push the other person away and even cause them to dislike you for toying with their feelings.

Does playing hard to get help when you’ve been clingy and needy toward someone?

Playing hard to get when you’ve been clingy and needy toward someone might be your only option if you’ve noticed that they’re withdrawing from you.

But don’t use this as a tactic to get them interested in you again just so you can revert to being clingy and needy again. That will backfire.

If the other person has grown used to your attention, they might reach out to you to find out how you’re doing or to see what is up. Depending on how clingy and needy you were behaving before, playing it cool might allow you to spark their interest up again.

But getting them interested again will not be automatic. After all, you were very clear about your feelings for them. It’s going to take a bit of convincing for them to believe you’re no longer interested.

They may even guess that you’re just playing hard to get. But you will need to stay the course. Don’t give in. When they realize you’re not budging and fear they might lose you, or feel safe to express their emotions (in case they have an avoidant attachment style), they will come back.

If they come back, don’t revert to your old ways of being clingy and needy. You will just scare them off again. Continue cultivating your own hobbies, living your life, and giving them space. They will let you know if the space you’re giving them is too much.

How can you tell if it’s having the opposite effect?

If you’ve been playing hard to get, but you are not sure if it’s working or having the opposite or negative effect, chances are it’s not working.

Playing hard to get is a dating ritual that both parties should enjoy. Used wisely, it can help you figure out a love interest’s intentions toward you. However, it should not be used to the point where the other person feels like you’re just toying with their emotions or don’t like them at all.

When it has gone on for too long and the other person loses interest, it’s pretty obvious. You may notice the following:

When playing hard to get goes on for too long, the other person will eventually conclude that you don’t know what you want, are playing games, or are not interested. Clearly, that is not the result that you want.

Only use this tactic until you get the answers that you need. Once you have them, allow yourself to be vulnerable and start disclosing your feelings to the other person.

Should you play hard to get to get into a relationship?

Playing hard to get may not necessarily help you get into a relationship. But it can help you figure out if the other person is interested in one. What you do with that information is entirely up to you.

If the other person is not interested in a relationship and you are, do you value yourself enough to walk away to find what you’re looking for with someone else? Or will you give up your desire for a relationship just to be with him/her?

If you decide to walk away to find someone willing to give you what you want, the commitment-phobe may eventually come running back. But that’s not always the case. They might come back for a little while and then leave again. Or they could even come back and end up resenting you for “forcing” a relationship on them. Anything is possible and you must be willing to take the gamble.

On the other hand, if you give up your desire for a relationship and settle for what it is they want (be that friends with benefits or not to label things at all), you might end up resenting them or feeling used. Why put yourself through that when you could be looking for someone willing to give you what you want?

Playing hard to get helps you to be sure of the other person’s intentions.

Is playing hard to get manipulative?

Playing hard to get can be manipulative when you’re using it to gain the upper hand in a relationship or when you’re toying with another person’s feelings.

When you play hard to get to gauge the other person’s feelings for you or to find out if they’re looking for a serious relationship or a fling, it can be about being selective and discriminating in your choice of a partner.

You don’t want to date just anybody, and nobody wants to date someone who will date just anybody. Playing hard to get can help you weed out all unsuitable partners, so you don’t waste your time.

But when you’ve found someone who you have feelings for, and you’re using this tactic to change the power dynamic in your relationship, then you’ve entered the territory of manipulation and toxicity. Research has shown that people with narcissistic or manipulative personalities are more likely to use tactics like playing hard to get, especially when they’re using it to cover up the fact that they’re dating other people.

If you’re in a new relationship and feeling vulnerable, talk to your partner. Don’t use playing hard to get to manipulate your relationship into a dynamic that you are more comfortable with. It might work for a little while, but eventually they’ll grow tired of your games and move on to someone who won’t play with their emotions.

We really do recommend that you seek the advice one of the experts at Relationship Hero before you engage in playing hard to get, so that you can do it right and get the outcome you are hoping for.

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Gentleman’s Guide: How To Play Hard To Get With A Girl

One of the ways that you can attract the attention of a girl is when you play hard to get.here is your guide on how to play hard to get.

How effective is playing hard to get?

When trying to date a girl, does it help when you play hard to get? Scientists have tried to shed some light on this topic and whether it can be beneficial to men. In one of the studies that was published in Psychological Science, it was noted that women tend to be attracted to guys whom they were uncertain about as compared to those they were sure loved them. One thing that psychology agrees about love is the reciprocity principle. This indicates that we fall in love with the people who like us. So what happens if we are unsure whether someone loves us or not? What is the effect of uncertainty on our love feelings? Why should a girl be interested in a dude that she is not sure loves her? Some studies have shown that the uncertainty about any positive event tends to produce more good feelings as compared to when the event was positive. This means that if someone is unsure about something, they tend to think about it more and we are more interested by uncertainty. The reason for this is that we keep thinking about the possible outcome and how we are unable to adapt to the event. When we are sure about the certainty of an event, we get excited about it but only for a short period of time before we get used to it.

When and how to play hard to get

Since every girl is different, you will need to understand that they will all react different when you play hard to get. If you are trying to be her boyfriend, there are several signs that you need to be on the lookout for to be sure whether to play hard to get with a girl. Some of the top signs that you need to be on the lookout for include:

1. She gets nervous when around you

When you find that a girl is becoming unsecure and nervous when she is around her boyfriend, this is an indication that she loves him. She is actually considering you to be in her league. When a girl isn’t sure that she is in your league, don’t play hard to get in the relationship. In case she suspects that you are interested in her, she may opt to play to your game. When she speaks to you and you fail to answer her, the girl will assume that you aren’t interested in her and she will not put any effort in wining you. The reason why a girl isn’t sending you that text is because she doesn’t have the confidence to make that move. You should not assume that she is only playing games with you.

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2. Acting like the girl isn’t bothered by you

When you find that a girl is only giving your attention when she feels like doing it, there are chances that she is only playing hard to get with you. Girls will only deal with things in two ways; If she is interested,. She will engage you. If she isn’t, she will not even answer your call. When you encounter such kind of girl who is half interested in a relationship with you, there are chances that not only is she secure but she is searching for someone who is ready to challenge her. When you find that a girl is only answering you at her convenient, you should prepare yourself for the challenge. This is the right time to play hard with her. Avoid being too eager with her. Don’t text her too much or even come out strongly. When you do that, she will feel as if she has control over you and will not see the need to get into a longterm relationship with you. When dealing with such a girl, wait for her to make the first move and avoid answering right away. Instead, you should wait for her to get in touch with you. Do not go the extra mile until you are very sure that she is ready to do the same for you. The goal of causing a girl to get into a relationship with you is equality. This is especially the case when you are dealing with a girl who understands what she wants is confident and care less.

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3. You frustrate her as you play hard to get

In case you already feel the anger in her, it is an indication that there is something that you are not doing right. Even as you play hard to get, you will need to avoid frustrating here. Some behaviors that guys show only serve to bring out the crazy girl in her. When a girl feels like you are playing around with her, she will tend to become angry and aggressive. This is not the right time to play hard to get as this will only serve to start off the relationship on the wrong footing. When she sends some sarcastic texts, angry texts or others that are only mean, it is an indication that you have gone overboard. If you really like her, there is no need to play hard to get. The goal is to ensure that she finds you attractive rather than repulsive. When you leave her angry and frustrated, this will eventually cause her to dump you.

4. You hurt her as you play hard to get

There are dudes who think that when playing hard to get, you should ask her for a date and then fail to appear on the last minute. This isn’t playing hard to get and can only be termed as downright insensitive and rude. In case you want to play hard to get, you should only make her to wait for a little while before you can respond to her text messages. You can also wait a bit longer before you ask to be her boyfriend. You don’t want a situation where you make her feel insignificant or insecure. You came out of grade school a long time ago. If hurting a girl back then failed to work, is this still going to work now? This will only serve to make her feel that you aren’t the right person for her.

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5. She finds some stupid reasons not to be with you

In case you asked the girl to meet you, does she find some stupid excuses? If your answer is yes, then you will need to back away and stop. You need to realize that playing hard to get isn’t the same thing as letting her go. When all signs indicate that she is not interested in you, keeping on trying to push her will not make her interested. It will only serve to make her start to avoid you. The moment you stop calling her is when you will realize whether she is still interested. If she is still interested, she will make the move to reach out to you. Avoid waiting for a whole week before deciding to try later.

6. What if she shows interest and then pulls away?

When you find that a girl was interested in you but then she suddenly decides to pull away, it is because there is something that she doesn’t feel right. It may also be that she is no longer attracted to you. When you notice such a situation, you will want to stop pushing her any longer. However, if you believe that she is only trying to make things cool off, then there is no problem with playing hard to get in such a situation. When you find that the girl is sitting on the fence, it is because she is still considering whether you are worth to be her boyfriend. A common mistake that men make is to think that girls love playing games. When she realizes that you are playing games on her, she will start hating you. If you are a guy who is aiming to date a certain girl, playing hard to get at the beginning and oozing that air of uncertainty about your love for her will leave her thinking more about you and increasing her interest in you. When you are able to play hard to get in the right manner, this adds some excitement to a relationship with her. The only problem is that this will at times backfire. At times, you may overdo it and cause the person you were aiming to attract to move on. In order to do it right when trying to play hard to get, here are a few guidelines that you need to consider.

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