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How to Be Submissive In A Relationship

How to be submissive in a relationship?

Modern women sometimes forget the value of having the ability to be submissive.

Firstly, don’t be fooled by the flashy title. I’m not encouraging women to play dumb, be stuck in a ‘housewife’ role, or have no opinions.

Being submissive to a man is not about that at all.

I’m also not encouraging women to be submissive all the time. Being submissive is just another role that a woman can take up every now and then in her relationship with a high value, masculine man.

The reason I’m talking about being submissive is because it can bring more passion, strength and life to a healthy relationship.

IF your submissiveness is received by a man with love and respect. The key point here is that you need to do this inside a healthy relationship.

If you want to know if your relationship is healthy, here are 10 Ultimate Signs of A Healthy Relationship.

Being submissive is NOT something that you do with an abusive man.

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Being submissive in A Relationship Is Just Another Part Of You

…Another part of you that you might want to bring out sometimes.

Being submissive – whether in a joking or serious way can awaken the most masculine yet tender character in a man.

Being a submissive woman is almost never about admitting you’re ‘wrong’ or less worthy than a man. Being submissive just allows for a man to feel more like a man around you, and – as a result, have that extra bit of passion for you.

Part of being in touch with your femininity is feeling all the different parts of yourself that you can feel in your body.

This is about accepting that there are many different parts of you. You are not just one kind of woman!

When you know this, you start to explore and begin to know how to ‘go there’ (be submissive) when you want to. Submission is a part of learning to become more feminine as well.

So, the question of how to be submissive leads me to bringing up some things that you will need to understand and therefore be able to be submissive at times.

The ‘how’ will come to you through understanding of the reason behind it.

Case Study: Learn How our member Alison went from attracting perpetual abusive relationships… …To finally learning the skill of weeding out the wrong types of men, and passing the hardest test of them all… an accidental pregnancy after a month of dating! (…All by learning one simple skill.)

Being In Control All The Time Doesn’t Help Your Relationship With A Man

Our society has encouraged women to keep their guard up and wear masks (instead of being comfortable in their feminine core/essence).

Many of us naturally feminine women have gotten the message that we need to hide it away. Instead of being feminine, we often choose to ‘be in control’.

At the very least, we prefer to give the impression that we are in control.

This need to be in control is one of the biggest things that not only repels men, but makes it harder for women to find a good boyfriend and keep him!

Also it’s important to remember that going to school from a young age teaches us that being ‘right’ is high on the list of importance. We as women now have to be right, be smart and be intelligent too.

Nothing wrong with all of that. I personally went to law school and got myself a law degree.

However, I quickly realised that it did not help me in my relationship whatsoever!

Many women have also learned that they need to be like steel in the face of conflict. That is definitely not how to be submissive at all.

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Being Submissive In A Relationship Makes In Erotic And Passionate

I’ve mentioned it before and I’ll mention it again. A man really wants his woman to be open to him, and to let him in (emotionally, mentally, sexually, spiritually).

This is because it’s erotic for a man to feel the feeling of a woman gradually opening and trusting in him and his direction.

Of course, when we open, surrender to and trust a man’s masculine direction in the bedroom, that allows a him to feel our feminine energy.

He also gets to feel more of a man in the process of feeling your submissiveness and dominating you (hopefully from a place of love).

Modern Society & Traditional Education Turns Women Into Dominating Creatures

The problem with the way we’re educated (or not educated) at school, is that it’s turned a lot of women in to these intensely dominating creatures that completely emasculate the men around them. (read my article about learning how to be open)

The problem with this comes when you face of conflict inside of a relationship. There always IS conflict and always will be, it’s natural and good.

Yet in the face of conflict, many women often use these steel masks to cover up the natural parts of themselves that would come out when in moments of connectedness with a man.

Women Can Feel The MOST Vulnerable.

Women, in many ways, are the most vulnerable.

As a result, they have to use masks more than anything, to survive in a world that doesn’t always honour sensitivity.

Our world doesn’t always allow us the luxury of being sensitive to how people are treating us, how others feel and how we feel.

Our society seems to value being socially acceptable instead.

There’s nothing wrong with that. Until we’ve practised it so long that we bring the same need to be ‘acceptable’ and fake in our intimate relationships.

In the face of conflict, a woman can decide to open up to her man and remove the mask.

Decisions shape your future, and it’s as simple as making a decision, and focusing on the positives of doing this rather than the comfort of doing things the same way you always have.

Allow A Man Space To Give You His Masculine Direction

The best thing about learning to surrender to a man’s masculine direction is that it gives him a safe place to be the dark masculine parts of him!

So, let him in and try to let him take the lead – try to trust him even when it feels unfamiliar to trust.

It’s you’re afraid, just say something like:

“I am afraid, but I’m willing to trust you.”

(Sorry in advance if you feel like I’m making a bunch of generalisations – but for the purpose of this post, they are useful).

The truth is, in general, men are built naturally physically stronger than women.

And, they operate differently to women mentally too (think about a woman’s handbag, and how she magically fits in the contents of an entire HOUSE in it; versus a man who only carries a wallet with a few cards and some money.

Deep down, all women have vulnerabilities. All women have deep fears and feelings of uncertainty, especially in the face of violence.

Many of us also have a fear of abandonment. If that’s you, you may be interested in reading my article How The Fear Of Abandonment Can Make You More Beautiful…

A trustable man wants you to show him your vulnerabilities!

It’s a simple word of ‘I am afraid’ or ‘this scares me.’

How Does Submitting Benefit A Woman? Why Would You Want To “Submit” To A Man?

A lady asked this great question in my facebook group:

Here are the reasons to submit to a good man:

In my own relationship, I “submit” for these reasons:

I don’t submit to my man all the way through the day…I mean, we have responsibilities and a family to raise and feed.

But I don’t think most men are worthy of women submitting to them off the bat, if AT ALL.

For a man to be worthy of submitting to, he needs to be very intelligent, resourceful, and genuine about investing in you and caring about your feelings. All of that has to occur over time.

I wouldn’t (and would never advise a woman to) submit to a lazy doorknob.

As such, “submitting” to your man really is a gradual process of you testing him, him testing you, and you growing more open and trusting of him over time.

A Submissive Woman: Trust Him To Take You Places You Cannot Go Alone

Why should you be a submissive woman in a relationship?

Because it allows you the gift of surrendering to, and trusting a man to take you places that you’ve never been before. Places you can never go by yourself.

Places in which only a strong masculine man can take you!

Places in which it is only with a feminine woman’s trust, that a man can take her!

The trends in our society have also lead women to become less trusting of men; one feminist even claiming that ‘all men are rapists’. *raises eyebrows*

If you find that you have difficulty trusting men, or even people in general, I understand. You have every right to feel that way.

I also have an article that may help you with discerning who to trust and whom not to trust. You can read it here: Why You Can’t Trust People & 6 Hidden Signs They’re Untrustworthy.

Most Men Just Want To Do The Right Thing

Despite how many times you’ve been hurt by men, try to remember that every day there are men being heroic. Every day there are men out there standing up for what is right.

These are men who are taking care of and protecting people.

Most men, if they are raised reasonably well, actually want to do the right thing.

If you always assume bad intent in a man and let your feminine love be capped by your resentment, how can a man ever be a man around you?

Examples Of How To Be Submissive In A Relationship

Example 1: Being submissive is also about trusting your man enough to let him show you the way sometimes. Many women ask how not to be boring in their relationship.

And guess what, this is just one of the ways to not be boring. Surrender and allow your man the gift of your submissiveness!

Example 2: Also, you can ask him for help. Asking him for his opinion, or asking him for solutions is another method through which you can be submissive in a relationship.

Many men who are in touch with their masculinity at their core would jump at the chance to help a woman with something – really! It makes him feel needed, and useful. Not to mention manly 🙂

So, ask him for help even with the smallest things like bringing the shopping in, opening a jar, carrying something heavy, undoing a knot, etc.

Give him trust where you know it is deserved, and do it without question.

The masculine energy wants to be trusted. If you doubt your man all the time, it feels hurtful. It drains from the relationship bank!

Example 3: Know that he wants to have good direction to add to your life, so verbally thank him and appreciate him for gifting you with direction.

What does that mean? It means that you can thank him for sharing a solution with you.

Thank him for driving you somewhere for the first time (to a new place).

Be generous with your responsiveness to his suggestions, solutions and thoughts.

Good Men Work Hard To Be Trust By A Woman

A good man will work very hard to be trustworthy to you.

However, if there’s a cycle of you not being willing to TRY trust him, it makes it hard for him to BECOME more trustworthy.

This is because each mistrust is possibly stripping him of hope, as well as stripping him of his trust in you (and the relationship)!

Now, this isn’t just about trusting him not to cheat on you. That can be a part of this.

However, it’s more about learning to try to trust his direction in life.

So, even if you have a man who isn’t very smart, evolved or masculine or even correct in his direction, you don’t HAVE to pretend he’s right. You just express your fear when you know he may well be wrong.

You just have to behave as a woman who is willing to show that you are open to him even when he is wrong.

To Be A Submissive Woman, Don’t Tell Him He’s Wrong

It’s not always horrible to tell a man he’s wrong. In some contexts, perhaps it would be more efficient and get better results to tell him he’s wrong.

What you want to avoid, is fighting to be top dog in the relationship. In other words, you don’t want to be competing against him for who has the better masculine direction.

For example, your man wants to invest every last cent in a stock that you already know isn’t looking good.

Do you tell him he’s WRONG and it’s a horrible decision? This would crush his masculine soul.

Instead, to add value to your relationship, would you prefer to suggest to him that it makes you feel scared and nervous because of (list reasons)?

As a woman who is learning to give a man the gift of being submissive, of course you would choose the second option. As it shows you’re willing to TRY to trust him and still be open to him.

This is what it looks like to be a submissive woman.

Of course, if this is a man who is constantly making bad decisions, you may not want to stay with him long-term.

However, the principle of learning to show up more submissive and open in your feminine energy is the same. Choose to value openness MORE than cutting him down and emasculating him.

Value Openness More Than You Value Cutting Him Down

Ultimately, inside of a healthy relationship, it should be more important to you to value openness, than it is to value cutting him down.

Because being open and surrendering adds to the passion, emotional attraction and emotional connection inside of a relationship.

Whereas being domineering just takes value from the relationship and ruins the connection.

Question: have you seen men with their little girls/daughters? They don’t want to let ANYTHING hurt their little girl! (Ok unless he’s someone like Joseph Fritzl).

The same protective instinct applies with their wife or girlfriend, if only she could show a little innocence and submission – looking up to him as the leader.

Innocence is precious.

Innocence can also erode with a very high number of sexual partners as well as with the number of toxic relationships you have been in.

To Be More Submissive, Retain Your Innocence As Much As Possible

We live in a society that doesn’t value innocence.

We are encouraged to do things that basically ruin our innocence from a young age. So, that’s why some women (and men) do end up quite jaded – but that can be fixed.

Just imagine the innocence and purity of a happy little girl.

A girl who is well loved and who feels pretty and beautiful. What does her energy feel like? Is she warm or cold? Is she hyperactive or calm? Is she vengeful or vulnerable?

Despite you having a possibly traumatic upbringing, CAN you find it within yourself to connect to an innocent and pure girl within you?

She could be your gateway to greater openness and feminine energy.

You see, no high value, masculine man wants to fail at leadership, especially with his woman.

And that’s why, if you can give him the gift of feeling successful around you, he will WANT to be around you and he will perceive value by being with you. (read my article about making a man succeed)

To Be Submissive, Cultivate The Ability To Sit With Uncertainty

This is where being submissive is especially powerful and strong, on the woman’s part. To be submissive, a woman has to be OK with being uncertain.

This is incredibly strong on the woman’s part.

A lot of people think that by not trusting people, they are being strong, independent and smart.

But, where does a lack of trust get us, really?

It gets us a whole world of pain, that’s what it does.

We walk around, holding ourselves back, not able to be free and to let go, and to fully enjoy what life has to offer.

We become unable to give people a chance to show their better side (often if you trust someone, they want to please you MORE).

The happiness and freedom you are able to experience in your life now, and in the future is in DIRECT PROPORTION to the level of UNCERTAINTY you can comfortably handle.

The same goes with your intimate relationship!

The quality of your relationship with your man is in direct proportion to the level of uncertainty that you can handle.

Surrendering And Being Submissive

Part of knowing how to be submissive, and knowing that it doesn’t mean you are inferior is understanding that by surrendering to a man’s leadership and strength at times, you allow your relationship to flow.

By surrendering, you give your relationship the chance to be more real and just be free. Without so much pent up anger and negative association that plagues many modern marriages and relationships.

Men can come to resent a woman who is always fighting to be more significant than he is.

Women who always want to be the expert, be dominant, be ‘enough’ – they often struggle in relationships or any sort, let alone with a masculine man.

As my report ‘What Men Think’ revealed, most men who took part in the survey indicated that they most respected and admired a woman who was comfortable with her femininity and able to let her guard down.

By letting her guard down, a woman can start the process of letting him in: being open to him. Making a man’s role real and worthy.

Also, being able to surrender shows that you have plenty of self confidence and esteem as a woman. This means you are not the kind of woman who just has to prove yourself and be in control all the time).

You can also be charming when you “surrender” at the right time and to the right person.

Learn How To Be A High Value Woman And Add Real Value To Your Man

What men perceive as high value is often very different to what we perceive value in as women. If you want to learn how to add value to men, then check out Understanding Men.

There is a follow-on post related to my article on ‘Surrendering to Masculine Energy‘ – check that out if you want!

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I hope you enjoyed this. Any concerns or thoughts, be sure to let me know! 🙂

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Submissive Girlfriend

Want A Submissive Girlfriend? Make Her Submissive In 2 Easy Steps

Let me tell you about Tommy, a Shogun Method client of mine.

Tommy’s a pretty decent guy, piling his trade as a sales supervisor at a small roofing company in San Diego.

At 5″8, in his 30’s and sporting a slight beer belly, he’s as average as your Average Joe.

The apple of his eye is a Colombian in his 20’s named Luz. She’s, well, as Colombian as she gets, if you know what I mean. Imagine a slightly chubbier Shakira and you’re 95% there.

Some say Luz is too good for Tommy, and in some ways, it’s probably true.

I mean, Luz could’ve settled with this Silicon Valley startup hotshot she dated for a couple of years. Fate has it that she met Tommy at his roofing shop and they fell in love instantly.

After a couple of dates, Luz left Mr. Startup Millionaire to be with him. It was the coup of a lifetime for Tommy.

And then, shit hit the fan…

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Story Of Tommy, The Submissive Boyfriend

Tommy called me last week, sounding almost suicidal…

“You know, Derek,” Tommy sighed, “I love Luz.”

Of course you do, I thought.

“But I can’t seem to control her. EVER!” he continued.

“How do you mean?” I inquired.

“She decides everything. And I mean it, EVERYTHING!” he continued.

“What we eat, what we buy, where we go. Shit, I can’t even choose if I want to have coffee or tea in the morning!”

“I can relate, man,” I reassured him. “This happens all the time, but you can put an end to it – IMMEDIATELY… if you do the right things.”

I’ll tell you what happened to Tommy later, but for now I want you to know this –

There is nothing worse in the world than the sight of a submissive, pussy-whipped man.

Fact is, it’s easy to tell if you are one of those, ahem, Nice Guy, Submissive Boyfriends:

Then I’ve got both bad news and some good news for you.

Bar none. Nothing else comes close.

(I’m going to share that with you in this Guide.)

Now, before we continue, here’s a fair warning: This Guide can be pretty long.

And the eye-opening information you’re about to get might feel a bit overwhelming.

So, to make things easier for you, I’ve compiled a handy “Submissive Girlfriend Action Checklist” for you.

Download

It’s a free PDF document that lists all the important points you’re about to read in this Guide.

With it, you’ll have helpful checklists you can tick off as you make your girlfriend as submissive — and as happy — as she can be.

Plus, I’ve also included a top-secret Bonus Technique in the document.

It’s called Passive Dread.

I won’t divulge too much about it, but here’s a hint: It’s a technique that will passively make your girlfriend more and more submissive over time.

Yup, I know that raises a few snowflake-y eyebrows. That’s why I hid it in the “Submissive Girlfriend Action Checklist.” You’ll learn all about it when you download your copy.

Sounds good? Go get yours now before we continue. Go get it in the link above.

Excellent. Now let’s begin.

First things first: You need to know the deadly dangers of being a Submissive Boyfriend.

And I hope it’s still early enough to save you 🙂

Why Being A Submissive Boyfriend Sucks

Look, I’ll be frank with you.

Whatever you believe about dating and love may well be wrong.

And guess what? That’s not your fault at all.

You see, almost every other guy believes the same wrong things about women as you do.

After all, they get fed junk dating advice by clueless “Dating Gurus” and the mass media on a daily basis…

You know, crap like…

Does this sound like a massive conspiracy to emasculate men?

Piece-of-shit Mr Dating Guru goes on Oprah and spews bullshit like:

“Let her be in control, and you will both live happily ever after.”

Being a submissive man in a relationship sucks – BIG TIME.

Why, you ask? Because:

You might not feel any of that now. But you know what? It’s a matter of time before things become worse…

…and then, as sure as the sunrise, you will be unhappy with your life – mentally, emotionally and sexually.

But here’s the catch:

She won’t be happy either!

You’d think that she’ll be glad that you let her lead and dominate the relationship… but nope.

Why Women Shouldn’t Lead And Dominate A Relationship

Having the upper hand in a relationship is a complete disaster for a woman. And here’s why…

The reason why this happens is simple:

And in case you’re wondering, I don’t give a rat’s ass if that’s not “politically correct”. Nothing inside Shogun Method is politically correct.

Let me say it again, louder:

Nature designed every woman to submit to the control of a man.

She must surrender to him:

And the key to making her into a submissive woman is to manipulate, control and finally, enslave her mind.

Sounds hardcore, right? Well, this is some serious shit, make no mistake about it.

Here’s what you need to know about how women think and behave…

Her subconscious mind guides ALL the actions in her life.

And if you have the tools to hijack her subconscious mind, you will get her to submit to you: emotionally, mentally and sexually.

Makes sense, right?

Two Promises That You Must Make

You are probably asking right now:

“OK Derek, I’m up for it – so how do I make her submit? How can I hijack her subconscious mind?”

Well, pay attention because that’s what you’re gonna learn next. Exciting, right? 🙂

Before that, I gotta warn you:

Because what I’m going to show you can pretty much mess any woman up, promise me these two things:

I’m serious. Only proceed below if you’ve made the promise.

How To Turn Her Into A Submissive Girlfriend (In Two Simple Steps)

Congratulations, my friend.

You are about to become the envy of millions (or billions?) of unhappy submissive men around the planet.

The truth is that this knowledge will probably stay hidden for a long time. And since you’re here: make full use of it, alright? OK. 🙂

This two-step technique will make her submit to you… unconditionally and possibly forever.

Step #1 – Isolate Her From Everyone Else

Take a second to picture these real-life situations:

These are not rare instances. If anything, they happen all the time.

How’s this relevant to you?

Because all these examples involve ISOLATION.

(Here’s the Wikipedia article on Isolation – read it, but be aware that you can use it for good, not necessarily for bad.)

Here’s the prerequisite about making your woman submit to you:

You must isolate her from the outside world emotionally (and sometimes physically).

Here’s another way to put it –

You have to build an emotional barrier between her and the people or things that draw her away from you.

You use a Shogun Method technique called “Shared Experiences”.

Simply put, the more experiences you share with her, good and bad, the stronger she will feel about you.

It’s scientifically proven that shared experiences make humans bond.

These can take the form of many different things:

Watching a scary movie together…

Taking a romantic walk in the park…

Riding on a roller coaster together…

Those are lightweight experiences. Don’t get me wrong, they are OK… but not that great.

You know what? The experiences that seem BAD are especially powerful and effective.

Imagine:

Guess what? These are the moments that couples cherish more than a perfect dinner-and-movie date.

Here’s the bottom line:

CREATE “bad” shared experiences.

This is the key to emotional involvement (and ultimately, addiction.)

And the more emotionally addicted she gets, the more she will fall under your control… as she gets isolated further from everything else.

She will start to dominate less and less, as she relinquishes her control of the relationship to YOU.

Once isolated, she will be completely at your mercy…

And you can now start to enslave her, using Shogun Method’s legendary Black Rose Sequence.

Step #2 – Enslave Her With The Black Rose Sequence

So here’s the deal…

The Black Rose Sequence is the single baddest and most ruthless of all Mind Control techniques – the “Mother” of them all if you will…

And after you use it, her enslavement will be complete.

You know, I get emails almost every day from men who thank me for what the Black Rose Sequence has done for them.

And if any regular Joe can do it (including Tommy, too – more on him later below), you can do it, too, right?

I’ll be honest here…

The Black Rose Sequence is far too long for me to do it justice in this short article.

However, there’s a quick alternative technique which you can use which will give you the enslavement effect…

That technique is Fractionation.

What Are You Going To Do?

At this point, the ball is in your court.

You now have two options…

You were clever enough to get this far. I mean, this isn’t any lightweight “seduction” trick you’ll find on some bullshit “Pickup Artist” blog. So my feeling is you will go for Option #2 – right?

If that’s indeed the case, click this link below –

Online Mind Control Masterclass (Request Invite)

On that page, sign up for the Masterclass on how to use Fractionation to manipulate and enslave a woman’s mind – for good.

I’m waiting to hear your success story.

P.S: Before you go, remember Tommy? He used the Fractionation techniques on Luz, and the Black Rose Sequence right after.

The difference was night and day. She started to wake him up with a coffee and a smile – every morning.

And now asks him what he wants to do FIRST – every time. Gone was her sociopathic tendencies… and now she defers to Tommy on nearly everything. They are now happier than ever.

Remember: you’re doing this not only for yourself, but also for her happiness. She wants you to dominate her. So, do her that favor.

Frequently Asked Questions

What Is A “Submissive Woman”?

In any relationship, there’s a “submissive” partner and a “dominant” partner.

The dominant partner is the one who calls the shots – the one who makes the most important decisions, who provides for most of their partner’s needs, and who sets the general direction of the relationship.

Think of the dominant partner as being like a “kind, benevolent Master.”

Meanwhile, the submissive partner is like the “loyal, supportive Slave.” Their job is to support the dominant partner, follow their direction, and help make the relationship run more smoothly.

A submissive woman is one who happily and willingly assumes the “Slave” role in the relationship. As a result, she’s happier and freer to be herself, and the relationship thrives as a result.

And guess what? Shogun Method will make her want to be your “loyal, supportive Slave” willingly and lovingly.

How To Make My Girlfriend Submissive? She Seems Unwilling.

The best way is to make her submissive behind-the-scenes.

That is, you don’t TELL her to be submissive – instead you start saying and doing the things that make her WANT to submit to you, even if you don’t outright tell her to.

The techniques you’ve learned in this Guide, plus the Bonus Technique I’ve hidden in my “Submissive Girlfriend Action Checklist,” are some of the best ways to do just that. They lessen her will and desire to lead the relationship, and they make her rely on your strength, guidance, and direction more and more.

How To Make A Woman Submit Sexually To Me?

You must make her submit to you emotionally, first.

You MUST make her see you as the “Master” in the relationship, and not the “Slave.” It’s virtually impossible for any woman to submit sexually to a man who she sees as inferior to her.

Once she’s happily in her “loyal, supportive Slave” role, that’s when she’s free to unleash her sexual desires on you.

Remember: the name of the game is ENSLAVEMENT, not seduction!

How To Dominate A Girl In Bed?

When your girlfriend emotionally submits to you, it’s one of the most liberating, calming, satisfying feelings she’ll ever have in her life.

It’s only right to make her feel that satisfaction at a much deeper level by dominating her in bed, too.

While sexual technique varies from one guy to the next, you’ll want to make sure that yours will make her feel that same “happy submission” in bed, as well.

Just as normal Fractionation makes women emotionally submissive, “sexual Fractionation” makes her willingly submit to you sexually. It’s pretty amazing.

Fractionation is the real deal. If you could only learn ONE Mind Control technique in your entire life, it would have to be Fractionation.

Want a submissive girlfriend? Fractionation is your key. Click here to master it today.

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5 Ways to Be a Submissive Wife When It Doesn’t Come Naturally

February 10, 2020 by Mary 55 Comments

Find out how to be a submissive wife and what the bible really says about biblical submission. Plus, learn 5 easy ways to submit to your husband and shower him with love every day!

When Being a Submissive Wife Doesn’t Come Naturally

We argued before bed, and I tossed and turned.

Tired of his tools and clutter laying around, I aired my frustrations in no uncertain terms. I loudly spoke my truth, and there was no stopping me.

“Why do I feel so terrible now?” Deep down, I knew I could have shown more grace and kindness.

The next day, while browsing a list of topics to write about, I came across the term “submissive wife.” Ouch.

It’s intimidating for me to write on the topic of becoming a submissive wife, because it doesn’t come naturally.

Why? Because I can be extremely stubborn when I think I know what is best.

(Maybe you struggle with this, too?)

We love, respect, and trust our husbands. But, we also have a side that thinks we know best – and we want to do things our way.

So, what should those of us do who are submissively-challenged as wives? How can we learn to submit to our husbands?

To begin, we need to learn what true biblical submission really is.

Special Note: Most importantly, make sure your life is submitted to God first. If you want to make sure you are a child of God (a Christian, ready for heaven), read our post How to Be Saved According to the Bible. There are lots of misguided teachings surrounding this topic!

What is submission in marriage? (according to Galatians 5)

Even though I am far from a picture-perfect example of submission, this study is beneficial for me and I hope it encourages you, too.

First, does the bible say wives should submit to their husbands?

We often answer this question from the knee as it lunges forward in a Kung Fu-style reaction, kicking the male chauvinism back with a resounding NO!

But, we cannot escape the fact that the Bible clearly teaches submission to husbands in Ephesians 5.

No matter how you feel about the topic, lay aside any bias at the altar of trust in God and see what the Bible says about wives submitting to their husbands.

When taken in context (Ephesians 5:22-33), you will come away recognizing there is providential balance and mutual respect in the Biblical marriage relationship.

Let’s begin with verse 22: “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.”

And what is the original definition of the word ‘submit’ here? (I got my Greek-scholar husband to help me with this one… here’s our hilarious text volley from that day –

Ok, now that we have that out of the way… back to the Greek word ‘submit.’

ὑποτάσσω – to place yourself under, to cause to be in a submissive relationship, of submission, involving recognition of an ordered structure, of the entity to whom appropriate respect is shown.

This Greek word “submit” is actually a combination of two words, one word meaning “a position under” and another word meaning “arrange or put in place.”

So we see that true biblical submission is an active role that we choose to take on as wives, to recognize the authority God has set up and to be subject to it. It is not brought about by some chauvinistic man holding a woman under his thumb.

Instead, it takes a spiritually strong woman who realizes the importance of the God-given role of submission. And, a realization that if Jesus himself submitted to the Father’s will out of love, we, too, can submit to our husbands.

The bible instructs husbands, too

A true understanding of the final phrase “as to the Lord” can only be found in Ephesians chapters 1-5:21. The audience who received these instructions were Christians.

The male and female members of the Church in Ephesus had already submitted to the Lord and to each other (Ephesians 5:21).

They found their spiritual forgiveness and blessings in Christ (1:7), their faith and responsibility (2:8-10), God’s wisdom revealed in the Church (3:8-12), their supreme unity (4:1-6) and their Christian path paved in love (5:1-21).

It is in this context that ideally, husband and wife have both already submitted to the Lord. Let’s continue to verses 23-24:

“For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”

Jesus, the head of the Church, gave himself in death for the Church. Jesus was not selfish with this role, and neither can a husband be with his wife!

I love how Drs. Cloud and Townsend put it in the well-known book Boundaries:

Whenever submission issues are raised, the first question that needs to be asked is, What is the nature of the marital relationship? Is the husband’s relationship with his wife similar to Christ’s relationship with the church? Does she have free choice, or is she a slave “under the law”?

So, the healthy context for biblical submission happens when both husband and wife are under the headship of Christ. God gives husbands a responsibility toward their wives, and we as wives have an equally great responsibility toward our husbands.

But what if my husband isn’t a Christian? Do I still need to submit?

Peter handles this exact concept in 1 Peter 3:1-2:

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see your respectful and pure conduct.”

One way to think of this is “My husband isn’t a Christian…yet.” This must be your daily prayer for him.

It’s possible to submit to a non-Christian husband, as stated in this passage. But, the caveat is that he must know you are submitting to Christ, first and foremost.

Now that we know what it really means to submit according to God’s plan, we must understand how being a submissive wife truly blesses us!

How being a submissive wife blesses you

When God told you to submit to your husband, did you know He actually did so for your own good?

Here’s why submitting to your husband is a blessing:

It takes the pressure off of you.

When we control things ourselves, it may give us a temporary sense of satisfaction. But allowing my husband to lead actually takes a lot of the pressure off me in day-to-day life.

I have enough to worry about with caring for children and completing my other tasks, it is actually a relief to allow my husband to lead and not feel like I have to control every little thing!

It makes you happier to embrace your God-given role.

When God gives us life instructions, it is always for our own good/benefit. According to His design, He knows that living in a state of submission to a loving husband will contribute to your highest state of happiness in marriage.

At the end of Ephesians 5, children are instructed to obey their parents in the Lord. One of the best ways for them to learn this is by observing a devoted mother who submits to her husband, and their father who submits to the heavenly Father.

Your willingness to submit to your children’s earthly father is a real-life model to your kids for how they can submit to the heavenly Father. What a joy!

Not only does a submissive wife bless the entire family unit, it makes her happier, too, knowing she is a vital part of God’s plan.

There is less chance of infidelity & divorce.

When we display a spirit of submission to our husbands in every way we can, this is sure to lead to a calmer and more contented marriage.

This, in turn, increases happiness in relationships and makes infidelity/divorce a lot less likely to occur.

Your husband will likely show his appreciation right back.

When you show your husband how much you are trying to respect his role as leader of your family, chances are that he will be thrilled and shower you with his love and affection in return.

It’s the snowball effect: you start with a small act of kindness, your husband notices and does something kind for you, and the snowball continues to get bigger!

You may be thinking, “That’s great, Mary. But how do I become a submissive wife? Especially when I’m not in the habit?”

Thankfully, there are a lots of small things we can do that all add up to showing a spirit of submission.

How can I be the best submissive wife? 5 easy ways

Here are some simple ways we can all show more submission to our husbands, regardless of how easy or challenging it may seem.

1. Brainstorm ways to help him.

Did you know that ‘helper’ is your God-given job description? This means you are divinely-appointed for the task!

Genesis 2:18 says, “The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”

In what ways are you uniquely suited to help your husband?

Take a moment to brainstorm. Think about the talents you possess and how you might best use them to bless your husband:

Are you super organized? Make your living space beautiful and help your husband organize his schedule.

Are you a great cook? Use this talent to fix his favorite meals and snacks without him asking. This will make him feel loved!

Are you a people-person? Accompany him to social gatherings and host get-togethers in your home. Make a point to invite his family and work friends over.

Whatever talent you uniquely possess, there is a way for you to use it to the glory of God and the benefit of your husband. Get creative!

2. Make him feel important.

There are so many ways to make your husband feel important and loved. The first step here is knowing your husband’s love language (the Five Love Languages book can be very helpful here!).

Then, knowing how your husband feels best loved and appreciated, work on implementing some new things.

Greet him when we comes home from work, spend more time conversing with him, cook him nutritious meals, fix him lunch, or iron his clothes. These are just some ideas – there are tons of ways to make your husband feel important!

Doing small things for your husband throughout the week adds up and will make your husband feel like he is the most important person in your life.

And cultivating the heart of a servant toward your husband will bless you as well!

One word for mamas: When we have little people with lots of needs, it’s especially challenging to prioritize doing more for your husband. But try, whenever you are able, to put his needs above the needs of the children.

After all, in 18 years the kids will be grown, but marriage is forever.

3. Be selective in how I “instruct” him.

My stubbornness makes it challenging to keep my mouth shut at times. But I’m trying to think before I speak, especially when it comes to instructing him or telling him how he can do things “better.”

This isn’t to say we can’t speak our minds honestly if we see room for improvement – it’s all about the delivery. Speaking with respect (at an opportune moment is even better!), goes a long way toward a submissive spirit.

4. Practice gratitude for all the things my husband does.

Just taking a moment to think about all the things my husband does for us is sobering.

I think about how hard he works, often to come home and continue to work fixing things around the house. He often helps with dishes and other chores, plays with the kids, takes the time to listen and support me, and even brings me coffee in bed (!).

Take a few moments to mentally list all the wonderful things your husband does in a typical day. Chances are, you’ll be amazed!

And one easy way to show submission to your husband is to verbally state your gratitude to him. Thank him often for his good qualities, and you’ll start to see more of them too.

Oh, and allow your husband to be the protector and provider – it’s his God-given role and he loves it!

5. Pray for God to give you a heart of submission.

The best way to cultivate a submissive spirit? PRAY.

Pray fervently that God will develop a heart of submission in you. If you go through all the motions of helping him, holding your tongue, thanking him, etc., but you don’t cultivate a true heart of submission – it’s all for naught.

In every way, that’s what God wants. Our hearts. And submitting to your husband is a part of that. Pray:

“Lord, help me to submit to my husband. It doesn’t come naturally to me, and I like doing things my way. But I want to please you in this way and I know your plan is best. Please soften and transform my heart so I can submit to my husband the way you want me to. Amen.”

When you do your part to submit to your husband, God sees your heart and will reward you for it — regardless of your husband’s actions.

You also have to trust that what God said is best. Having a submissive spirit may be the total opposite of how you were raised. It’s something you must actively seek as you strive to do God’s will.

Are there other ways you display submission to your husband? Do you agree/disagree? What would you add to this list?

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Super article, Mary. SO needed in our culture and congregations!… and in my home. =)

Thanks for reading Ms. Cindy, this means a lot coming from you. God bless 🙂

Thank you, Mary. I found you from my Google search. Excellent article! Thank you….you are a blessing💖

Truly inspiring,I did not even know I was not submissive. May God help me and every other woman trying to learn to be submissive,Amen. Thank you for pointing all these out and writing. God bless you and increase in wisdom too. I just followed you on Pinterest,kindly follow back. Thank you.

Thank you for inspiring me to become a submissive wife. I struggle with control issues. My father was not a part of my life so growing up with happily married parents and a submissive mother was not part of my upbringing. Therefore I tend to rely a lot on myself and it has definitely caused many problems in my marriage, I have come very close to destroying my marriage. I am in my 50’s now but still desire to be a better wife for the time that God gives me with my husband. So thank you again ❤️

Thank you for sharing your heart Michelle, just prayed for you. And thank you for reading!

This is a topic that’s been on my heart a lot. I too am stubborn and I am easy to irritate. How do you navigate things when you suddenly find out there is going to be a party at your house in 24 hours or when told you have handled a parenting situation incorrectly but there is no other solution offered? These areas are where I really struggle to keep my mouth shut and are often sticking points. Areas where the end result is feeling unsupported and disrespected.

There are difficult moments for sure! None of us are perfect. I think these are moments where prayer and honesty with your spouse are paramount. Blessings!

Thank Thank for this. I struggle to be submissive in our day to day life but I know it’s how things work the very best.

I too have a problem keeping my mouth shut when iam being
Subjected to i’ll treatment but thanks to this information I will co to us to pray ask for forgiveness

I think we can still be honest with our husbands and expect good treatment and respect, while still being respectful to them. Blessings to you.

You should not submit to ill treatment. That’s called abuse, even if it’s verbal. My husband tried to verbally abyse me and manipulate me under the guise of submission, even calling me ungodly for not submitting to his demands. Our husbands are supposed to be giving us LOVING leadership, not demands to give up our hopes, dreams, ministries we serve in, friends, pets or family members or name calling, put downs, him not caring about your needs, and hitting you. Nothing is loving about this type of treatment and it’s not the kind of treatment God meant to exist in marriage. All you can do is get somewhere physically and emotionally safe, get help and pray.

Thank you so much for this! It has lead me to a more clear understanding. After growing up with a single mom of 4 girls it’s hard to give up control and leadership. I do sometimes but then fall back into the pattern of taking control. My husband is very laid back and rather me be in charge. So now it’s a battle of how to be submissive without him being so laid back.

I know you can do it Sandy! May God bless you.

My husband dictates what I can and cannot say or do. I have just had to delete Google reviews because I’m not allowed an opinion of use free speech. I find it totally disheartening and if this is having to be submissive then I’d rather be single.

I am sorry Candace, it might be good to look into counseling for your situation? God bless you

If I have an opinion that differs from my husband’s he sees it as a criticism of him personally, not just his ideas. I think our men have a huge need to be right. Perhaps they have self-esteem issues; then again, we must ask ourselves have we caused this and what can we do about it. Of course we are entitled our our opinions, but our husbands will fight for their leadership roles if they feel they have to.’

There is a mutual responsibility of the husband toward the wife as well. “Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:25. We will not understand Ephesians 5:22 (wives submit) without the full context of husbands responsibility toward wives. Just pray for your husband and I encourage you both to study Ephesians chapters 4-6. It helps know that the roles in marriage are in the contexts of all submitting to God first before submitting to one another. I hope this helps.

At 74 years old and married 57 years I have finally found the way to be happier, joy filled and more aware of God’s love for me (us). I was always meant to be under my husband in the submissive wife marriage. I love knowing finally what God’s design for me and my husband in marriage is. I have placed myself whole heartedly in this way of life and living. My husband is still finding his way in this but I know as he sees that this new me is here to stay he will be more confident in leading, guiding and protecting me. I thank God for your blog and your wise council. God bless you richly.

Thank you for sharing and may God bless you and your marriage!

Victoria Torres says

Victoria Torres says

Prayers for your husband’s healing. While I cannot advise you on this most important decision, I will say that your first allegiance is to God. Submit to Him, study and pray, and follow your heart. He will show you what to do. May God bless you!

Juliana Edwards says

Most marriage vows include until death do we part. The marriage “contract/vow ” is over upon the death of either of you. The surviving spouse is completely free to move on. This scripture brings out this truth. Please don’t let anyone control the rest of your life from the grave. The scripture also brings out that once a person passes away so do their thoughts and memories perish.
Romans 7:2, Ps 88:12

Yes, this is true Juliana!

I just stumbled across your blog doing some research on this particular part of the Bible. I haven’t read your other stuff so forgive my ignorance, but do you believe that a married woman’s highest and best use is to support her husband and keep the house/kids? What if a woman wants to be a mother and wife and also have a career of her own? It sounds like your explanation of submission is building your life around his needs, which is not bad in itself but what happens when we want to use our other God-given talents outside of the home?

While I believe that being a Christian wife and mother is the greatest role we can fill, there is nothing wrong with a fulfilling career outside the home. Each family has to decide for themselves what is right for them. God bless!

If I have an opinion that differs from my husband’s he sees it as a criticism of him personally, not just his ideas. I think our men have a huge need to be right. Perhaps they have self-esteem issues; then again, we must ask ourselves have we caused this and what can we do about it. Of course we are entitled our our opinions, but our husbands will fight for their leadership roles if they feel they have to.’

Thanks Mary for this article. I was praying about marriage and a certain gentleman when the spirit of God asked me how ready I was for marriage yesterday. Immediately I closed from Mass, I decided to research on Godly marriages. Submission doesn’t come naturally for me. Where do I start from as a single woman? Do I wait until I get married?

I think we can all practice submission to God first and foremost through obeying His Word, and submission will flow from there! Blessings to you 💗

I have been married for10 years and been so stubborn yet from the beginning my greatest fear was submission. Submission is a serious struggle for me in my marriage resulting with frustrations for the whole family. I have prayed about it before but I keep falling back and just cannot keep and control my mouth. Thank you so much for your guidance. I just want to go into a journey of prayer for my life as a wife and become a real God fearing wife who also serves the Lord as my spiritual life and service to God is adversely affected resulting with so much frustration. At times I feel I have failed I shouldn’t have married but this was God plan for my life. But I sense some depression creep in my spirit. I believe this is God divine intervention for my life because am not made to fail but to conquer in Christ Jesus.

Prayers and blessings to you! None of us are perfect, we keep trying and do the best we can with God’s help!

I want to start off by saying… wow. Thinking about it a little bit, I get the part where you would want to be happy by not being controlling, but being submissive, and then giving tips on how to be submissive if you aren’t already naturally?… Honestly, in my opinion, I can’t imagine being willing to have someone else be dominant/leading in my life, and I don’t understand why anyone would. Trust is important in a relationship… but not being submissive. I would also like to bring up my religious view on this (considering I am a Catholic): If you don’t have a naturally submissive heart, why would you change what God gave you? God gave you a headstrong, independent heart for a reason, so why would you go ahead and change it? It isn’t wrong to be strong in your conviction and not want to bend your will to others’, even if the Bible says so (which was written hundreds of years ago, not that I mean disrespect or anything). I should also ask: What are you teaching your daughters? To accept being secondary in their choices? And what are you teaching your sons? To be dominant and make sure others accept their opinions?
I’m not in a relationship, and I have never been in one. I am not super religious, and I don’t follow everything the Bible says and how it’s written. But I do believe that being submissive is the worst thing you can be in a relationship. If you’re happy, then that’s fine, but I believe (and will always believe, despite if you are a strong-hearted person) that submission is weakness, and that is not something that anyone should accept being. Like I stated before, trust is important in a relationship, but being secondary in your own power?… That is, on all accounts, degrading.
Thank you for all who are reading this, and I wish you luck in your relationships. My advice is if you are naturally a submissive person, that you learn to be stronger in your conviction (unless, of course, you are happy, but even then I would recommend that you don’t strive to be submissive). And if you don’t have a naturally submissive heart… don’t change what God gave you. You should focus on trust, not submission. The only person who you should ever submit to is God, and nobody else. Thank you again.

As I said in the post, Jesus was submissive to the Father and showed us an example. And the fact remains that God commands wives to submit to their husbands. In our society today, there is a misunderstanding of the word submission, and it has a (wrongfully) bad connotation. Being submissive is a godly, wonderful characteristic — not a bad one. Of course we should always obey God first and foremost over any human. And being submissive does not negate the fact that we should strive to be open and honest in our communication with our husbands, and that this relationship should be founded on love and mutual respect. Hope this helps clarify, and may God bless you!

I understand that gut reaction to thinking that submission is bad/negative. That is submission as far as the world sees it, not Biblical submission. Biblical submission is about loving and respecting your partner, putting them above yourself. It is not abusive nor authoritative. Do you view God negatively? As a Christian, God should be the one directing your life/thoughts/actions. It isn’t negative, it is loving and trusting Him! Submission to your husband is the same kind. It isn’t not having a brain, or not voicing your opinion, or being treated badly. That is not the biblical marriage God designed. It is a mutual love and respect. I hope that you will research more on the topic and try to differentiate between worldly submission and biblical submission. They are completely different.

I’ve been married for nearly 19 years to a godly man and I know our relationship has been far from perfect. I know a great deal of the not perfect has been my fault.

So tonight my husband says to me, “I have never felt you are my wife.” He said that I’ve never let him in. It was like a kick in the gut and it’s soooo sad, but unfortunately it is true. I told him it’s because I don’t trust anyone but God and I trust women more than men.

I have major trust issues. Plus I am a total control freak. I’ve sought to control most aspects of our relationship for our whole marriage. It’s not been a good thing. So I looked online and found your blog because my life has to change. I have to allow God to have and keep total control of my life. I have submit myself to my husband’s authority so he sees I’m different.

You see I’ve tried to change before but it’s never stuck. I am never consistent. My husband compares me to a roller coaster. I truly believe I have dealt with the root of the issue this time, but I still need prayer. I know I cannot do this in my own. Old habits die hard.

So anyone who is willing, pray. Pray I will submit and treat my husband with the respect God calls me to give him.

Thank you so much for sharing, Karrie! I will pray for you and your relationship with your husband to flourish!

I have been married to my second husband for 6 years. My first husband passed away in 2001. My husband believes in God and the Bible but is not saved. He is verbally abusive and also mentally at times. I have prayed to the Lord for him. I am considering leaving due to his narcissistic treatment. I prayed for a more submissive spirit, however it’s difficult not to lash back at him when he curses me out and says cruel things. What does God say about being obedient to your husband when they are abusive? He doesn’t hit me, but he let’s me know during an argument that he is the only one who should be raising his voice. I have a hard time not yelling back, especially when I know he is wrong! My question is how do I respond when he yells and says hurtful things to me? Just ignore him? I desire to still obey my husband because God commands it as his wife, however it really hurts me and makes me cry. Please advise me as I want to save my marriage 💑, yet also want to be living in peace. By the way, my husband doesn’t think we need counseling. He is stubborn and thinks I have a problem, not him! Please help! I don’t want to disobey God by not obeying my husband but at the same time my heart is breaking 💔😢.

I’m so sorry to hear this Amy! Just said a prayer for you. I know you said your husband doesn’t want counseling. But could you go by yourself? Maybe a Christian counselor could help you navigate this tough situation. Other than that, all I can say is to keep praying, keep loving him, while also keeping yourself safe. Sending hugs.

sabrina sabrina says

Am back here to say thank you to him for the restoration and peace he brought back to my home. I will forever grateful to him.

Opeoluwa Ogunbunmi says

I just came back from a prayer session where I was convicted about submission. This piece is just for me! Am still praying and trusting God for a new heart
I choose from today to be submissive! The benefits are all mine,amen
Thanks Mary, for your sincerity & practical exposition.
Opeoluwa, from Nigeria

Margaret Moatshe says

Thanks Mary. Great and Good staff. I am blessed, empowered and encouraged. I will teach other women or mothers what I have learned from you.
From Margaret

Mrs. Ferguson says

You may have literally saves my marriage tonight and I from the bottom of my heart thank you. I have been through a lot of abandonment and hurt in my life and me and my ex husband reconciled a month after our divorce was final and I have been resilient and have fought for my place in his heart bc I’m hurt I am no longer labeled his wife and it has caused issues. He almost walked out on me tonight and I bawled knowing I am doing wrong and messing it up. I begged for a chance to truly be a better wife and this helped me recognize how I was not doing right by him: I am going to continue to pray and ask for forgiveness but I want to thank you for sharing even though it’s not easy. You saved me and my family tonight.

Glory to God! I’m so thankful! Sending prayers and hugs

This article is very helpful. But I have a question. How can I let my husband be the provider if his earning is not enough for the family? I am a working mom (I am in the office for 9 to 12 hrs/day) my salary is double than his. Our combined income is enough to cover our family’s needs and for our future.
It is actually my heart’s desire to be a full-time housewife but his small earning hinders it, that’s how I look at it.
Thanks in advance for your advise.

Every family has to do what is best for their unique situation. ❤️ Sending best wishes

i am sad that a whole theology of submissiveness has been built around a few verses that were taken out of context.

why isn’t the verse about being single elevated since paul praised that life style also. and why do we love dogs like we do when the bible has nothing good to say about them and there are dozens of verses proving it.

eve was adam’s equal in all ways. her name ezer kenegdo means equal power.

jesus broke the patriarchal rules of the time just by speaking to women and allowing them into his presence. when mary sat at the feet of jesus, martha was angry not because she had to do all the work but for a woman to listen to religious teaching was breaking all sorts of rules of the time. women just did NOT sit in to listen to teaching yet jesus told martha to cool it.

patriarchy is the backdrop of the bible (like camels, deserts, togas, sheep and shephered, etd) not the point of it.

in patriarchal sites rules are directed mainly at women, including micromanaging rules and some rules that say men can spank disobedient wives. and often these rules conflict.

it was church councils that voted to keep women down, took away them being deacons and even if they had souls and allowing men to beat their wives if they were disobedient or for whatever.

to see what submission really does to women read recoveringgrace.org and the stories of women abused by following what bill gothard claimed is god’s will for women.

husband and wife are co-equals and that is what god originally meant. there is no such thing as a disobedient wife.

God created women and men are equal in value, but their design and roles are different. The bible in no way makes men more valuable than women, and God’s intent was for submission to actually be a blessing to women. Sadly some people have twisted and abused God’s original design. But we cannot ignore the fact that the bible does in fact command wives to submit to their husbands, and also for husbands to love their wives. Both parties need to be in God’s word and showing one another the love of Christ, which makes for a heavenly marriage.

Fapohunda Funmilayo says

This really addressed an issue I have been struggling with for years. May God grant me a submissive heart. Thanks for sharing. God bless you

Thank You for this information! I’m a 79 year old woman who has been happily married 31 years. All of my adult life I have been independent and have had to fight for myself. It is just now that I want desperately to become a submissive wife and become a HOLY woman of God and BOY, am I struggling with it. But I know with God’s help, I WILL SUCCEED! Thank you for your help!

Hi, Susan raised a valid point about Paul advising against marriage. I know that scripture too well. Could we talk about that as well? Because truly like the Apostle said.. those who get married fall into hard times…..

Just what I needed!! Right on time. Thank you for this!

Being a late comer believer of my family with a wife who is a victim of sin and doesn’t actively believe, which shows it’s difficult from both “sides” if that’s your perspective. I hope/pray one day my wife will believe and allow God’s directives to fall in place, which includes loving obedience. However, I also understand that I settled into a marriage union with her by following my own sin and have fully accepted the consequences of that sin in the form of living within a difficult relationship (see Genesis 3 re. enmity). Those speaking about Paul’s thoughts of singleness is true, but you have to start there. Once you choose to enter into God’s marriage, you are held to those standards as a believer whether you understood it back then or not. The only justifiable biblical release is through adultery or abandonment, plus the legal means of abuse. How that is defined to you will be left to your convictions and God will eventually judge accordingly. I’ve learned there is purpose in pain and trials that may not specifically be targeting you. What we should be doing as believers is showing that Holy example to others, regardless of how those others are treating us. That’s doesn’t mean being a doormat, but it does mean acting in a manner that God would be pleased of first instead of reacting from our emotion first. That part is very hard for me, still working, but I trust in His message of love and patience first these days and stay in His word to ease my mind. I pray for those who struggle in their marriage.

20 Ways To Sincerely Please A Submissive Woman

Is she just being agreeable or she truly like it? Find out here!

How To Consider Her As A Submissive Woman?

Basically, if she’s more inclined towards listening to you, instead of bossing you around, she can quite safely be categorized as submissive. These women are generally soft, kind, sometimes introverted, and come off as super-friendly! You’ll never find them being mean to you, and they’ll do their best to make sure the guy feels well-respected. Her fashion choices could also display signs of submissiveness, such as T-shirts that say ‘kitten’ or ‘baby girl’, or such designs. However, it’s best to perfectly ensure facts before categorizing your girl. Communication is the best and most reliable way to do so, eradicating any window of confusion and speculation.

Hiding Her True Emotions Behind Agreeableness

Basically, if she’s more inclined towards listening to you, instead of bossing you around, she can quite safely be categorized as submissive. These women are generally soft, kind, sometimes introverted, and come off as super-friendly! You’ll never find them being mean to you, and they’ll do their best to make sure the guy feels well-respected. Her fashion choices could also display signs of submissiveness, such as T-shirts that say ‘kitten’ or ‘baby girl’, or such designs. However, it’s best to perfectly ensure facts before categorizing your girl. Communication is the best and most reliable way to do so, eradicating any window of confusion and speculation.

20 Ways To Really Please A Submissive Woman

1. Call her sweet names

All girls like getting called by adorable names! When it comes to submissive girls, it’s always effective to go for sensual and romantic nicknames that somewhat match her appearance or personality. If she looks super fresh, call her ‘sunshine’, and if she looks extra sexy someday, call her ‘hottie’. The shyness in the nature of a submissive girl magnifies the butterfly-effect of such sweet names.

2. Live up to your alpha male role

Always remember, two submissive personalities can almost never have a fulfilling long-term relationship. If your girl is submissive, you must take on the dominant role. Become the alpha male for her, even if that’s not your natural orientation, because a submissive woman craves dominance. In every aspect of the relationship, remember your responsibility as an alpha, and assert authority in making choices, protecting her, and making sure she’s satisfied.

3. Write a love note or love letter

Writing love letters is a lost art. Writing a sweet love note for your adorable girl would give her something to read, showing her that you care about her immensely. Apart from the romantic message itself, it indirectly communicates that she’s on your mind throughout the day – aww!

4. Bring her flowers

There’s a reason why bringing flowers is such a Hollywood romance cliché; it’s because it works every time. Drop some beautiful red roses by her house or hand them to her when she gets in your car. It just fills the moment with happiness, and her eyes will sparkle for you!

5. Send her romantic texts

Girls love feeling those butterflies flutter in their bellies, and a random sweet text is a great way to achieve that. Let her know you’re missing her; tell her you can’t stop thinking about her. A few cute words in a text message could lighten up her entire day!

6. Call her

Calling your partner is the best way to let them know that you genuinely care about them, and their well-being. You could simply ask her how her day has been, and what she’s up to. If you’re feeling generous, blow her a few kisses on the phone!

7. Respect her

As submissive as she may be, every girl demands respect. Chivalry never goes unnoticed, and submissive girls love to be treated like a princess. Give her a touch of your courteous side! Your simple acts will go a long way in pleasing her.

8. Compliment her

Always appreciate your girl; that’s the golden rule. Whenever you notice something appealing in her, communicate it and praise her well. Tell her how much you adore her glowing smile, her scent, or how great she looks in her new attire!

9. Listen to her

Put in the effort to let her know that you’re listening closely when she speaks. Submissive girls take their time to put trust in people and make sure you maintain that trust by making her feel cared about whenever she talks to you. Even if she’s ranting about life, she needs you to listen and know about it.

10. Spend time with her

Every now and then, it’s essential to clear your schedule and give time to your woman and share sweet moments. It’s extremely important in every relationship! No matter how busy you are, relationships and the people close to you should always come first.

11. Surprise her

Surprise her with gifts! Who doesn’t like presents? They don’t have to be costly; even her favorite flavor of ice cream could make her eyes shine with love! Some chocolates, or simply some movie tickets are enough to make your submissive partner giggle with joy!

12. Pamper her

It doesn’t hurt to spoil her with extra pampering every now and then! Bring her fries, tell her stories, sing romantic songs to her, kiss her more often, tell her you to love her! All of this really adds up to her happiness.

13. Make her laugh

Making a girl laugh is the most obvious way to any girl’s heart. Bring up a funny incident you experienced or some funny pieces you read online. Making a submissive woman laugh isn’t as difficult as you think; just share some funny moments or thoughts and it’ll work!

14. Sincerely apologize to her

Everyone makes mistakes, and if your girl is submissive, it doesn’t mean she doesn’t deserve apologies. Even if you perceive your mistake to be absolutely negligible, still don’t hesitate to say sorry to her. A mistake is a mistake, and good partners care about the feelings of each other.

15. Give her a hug

Oh, the loveliest thing you could do; hug her! Hold her tight and smell the soothing scent of her hair. It tells her that you want her, and miss her all the time.

16. Make her feel special

Every girl is unique in her special sort of way, and it’s an alpha male’s responsibility to make her feel that way. Tell her how much she means to you, and that you appreciate her emotional and physical presence in your life.

17. Thank her in every little effort she does

Don’t let a submissive girl think that her efforts are going unnoticed. Always show her your gratitude whenever she goes out of her way to please you. A simple ‘thank you, sweety!’ could make her day!

18. Hold her hand in public

A submissive girl loves knowing that her man is proud of her. Displaying affection towards her in public by holding her hand will communicate this message. It’ll also make her feel valued, honored, and protected in your embrace.

19. Always be there to lend a hand

As an alpha male, playing the dominant role in the relationship, you have a responsibility to be available whenever it’s needed. Solve her problems when you can; such as finding small stuff, helping with heavy bags, or just taking care of her when she’s ill.

20. Be sweet to her

Love her unconditionally, and be genuinely sweet to her. This would come naturally if you’re really in love with them, and you won’t have to make a conscious effort for it. Kiss her on her forehead, wish her goodnight and good morning, and tell her how much you love her! Make sure she’s certain about your loyalty because feelings of jealousy should never have a place in a healthy relationship.

Quotes Related to Submissive Women

“Submission is not about authority and it is not obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” ― Wm. Paul Young, The Shack

“It’s hard for an educated woman to turn her head off. That’s part of the joy of being a submissive. None of the decisions are yours. When you can’t refuse anything and can’t even move, those voices in your head go silent. All you can do, and all you are permitted to do, is feel.” ― Cherise Sinclair, Dark Citadel

“Men love a submissive woman, Damon said simply. Even when they say the don’t. There’s just something about a beautiful, soft woman looking to them to protect and take care of them that inspires a man to greatness.” ― Maya Banks, Sweet Surrender

“True devotion and humility is when you carelessly allow yourself to fall in love with things you consider will make you look inferior, which in essence, makes you superior.” ― Michael Bassey Johnson

“There’s a certain sort of beauty in submission. At least, in the kind Carter is slowly inflicting on me with each sweep of his tongue, each stroke of his hands. I am coming undone beneath him, unraveling into something I hardly recognize.” ― Evie East, Dirty Halo

Conclusion

Just like there are multiple classifications of men based on their qualities, women of all sorts exist all around us. This article is focused on a specific type of woman; the submissive category. As the name suggests, these ladies are the ones who play the passive and subservient role in the relationship, as opposed to an aggressive one. It’s easy to tell the difference between a submissive and an assertive woman, as their habits, behavior, and speech clearly tell them apart. In this article, we’ve told you how to know for sure if she really is a submissive girl, and what exactly you should do to please her. All the best!

Slave Tasks

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What Is a Slave Task?

Submissive/Slave Task is an assignment you agree to accept and follow through.
There are going to be different types of tasks. Every single one, though, is meant to help you grow as a person, build you up sexually, emotionally, and physically. Once you accepted the task, you have to complete it within the next 24 hours. There are several exceptions to this rule. Read them below in How To section.

Every Slave Task Has a Purpose

ACCEPT, FOLLOW AND LEARN

Even though you might find yourself sometimes questioning an assignment after reading it, you do not have to understand it all the way through. All you have to do is it to follow it, and once you finished your slave task, you will understand the reasoning behind it.
Sometimes I will include Purpose of the task into the description of a particular assignment, sometimes not. Other times I will make you figure out the lessons you had to learn by accomplishing this task.

Deeper & More Fulfilling Submissiveness

COMMITMENT AND SELF DISCIPLINE

The main goal is to make you think of me throughout the day. Whether you are an unowned submissive yet or one of my devoted play-toys, you want to be reminded constantly of your submission. Every day it will deepen, become stronger, and more fulfilling.
By completing given slave tasks, you will also work on self Discipline, which is the number one trait of every good boy.

How To

Subscribe

You must be an active auto-subscribed member to access Daily Slave Tasks.

Accept

Accept a Task by leaving a comment ‘Accepted’ below Task description. Once you have accepted the Task you must complete it within the next 24 hours.

Complete

Report about a successful accomplishment by leaving a comment below the Task description or if you prefer to keep it private, simply send me a DM.

Exceptions

It’s very important to follow every rule mentioned in the description of the task, as well as rules about accepting and completing your assignment on time.
But, of course, sometimes life happens, and you might not be able to follow through. I am not here to judge you, but instead, to teach you to behave accordingly to your position.

In case you are not able to complete an assignment that you have accepted, you should leave a comment explaining yourself, and asking for permission to postpone your task, as an obedient submissive always should.