How to find yourself
How to find yourself
How to Find Yourself When You’re Feeling Lost in Life
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Do you feel like you’re wandering through life with no sense of direction? Are you wondering how to find yourself?
Whether you feel lost yourself in a relationship, a career, a bad habit, or simply feel lost in life in general, you are not alone. All of us feel lost at some point in our lives. And we need time to explore ourselves.
Just because you don’t have a purpose in life doesn’t mean that you’re a failure or that you are incapable of finding your true self through the good and the bad. It just means that you are moving through a messy and beautiful process of transformation.
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Put Yourself First
In February of 2017, my entire life was turned upside down. Literally.
A bad motorcycle accident left me with a brain injury. I had “lost” myself 10 years earlier when I fractured my back in a car accident. Doctors told me that I had a traumatic brain injury (TBI) [1] —a disruption in the normal function of the brain that can be caused by a bump, blow, or jolt to the head, or a penetrating head injury. They didn’t know if I would be able to walk again.
But I survived, rehabilitated myself, and kept moving forward with my life. I guess you could say that my “bounce-back-ability” was strong.
Unfortunately, I didn’t do the deep inner work to heal the post-traumatic stress that the accident caused.
The thing about trauma is that it likes to store itself in your body. If you don’t deal with it, it comes back to slap you in the face when you experience an emotion or event that triggers the pain you once felt.
For years, I had tried my best to create distance from the emotions, thoughts, and bodily symptoms that I experienced from my first accident. I wanted to avoid my emotional pain at all costs, so I threw myself back into work and life.
What I didn’t realize is that ignoring bad memories actually makes them worse. Research shows that sometimes when we experience trauma, all of our energy and mental resources turn toward stuffing the memories down into the basement of our awareness. We attempt to avoid reminders and “move on” with life. [2]
I had survived, and I thought that was enough for me. However, this proved to be wrong. Ultimately, I realized that I had to lose myself in order to find myself again.
How did I do it? Through movement, which became my medicine and my therapy.
Because trauma is stored in the body, releasing it must involve the body. By connecting with my body intelligence, I have become more mindful of what my mind, body, and soul need on a daily basis.
I’ve learned how to become a master of my emotions (which is still a work in progress), and even more importantly, I listen to what I need and protect my boundaries.
Losing myself allowed me to get back in touch with my body and come home to myself. I believe that all of us have the power to transform our mess into our message. It starts with embracing vulnerability and having the courage to show up and be seen, even when you have no control over the outcome.
Life is lived in the mess. If you aren’t in the arena, getting your butt kicked from time to time and figuring out how to find myself, you’re not living.
What It Means to Find Yourself
Finding yourself is an unselfish process that is at the heart of everything you do in your life. To become the best version of yourself to the world around you, you need to start by knowing who you are, what you value, and what you need to offer.
It is a personal journey that every individual should take. It involves breaking down the layers that don’t serve you in your life and don’t reflect who you truly are. Apart from that, it also involves a huge act of building up to recognize who you want to become and focusing on fulfilling your destiny.
You need to be open to recognizing your personal power and also be vulnerable to your experience. It is not something that you should avoid or fear. Instead, you should seek it out with the passion and curiosity that you would have toward a new friend.
4 Easy Ways to Find Yourself
More than a million people across the world think that finding themselves is a self-centered goal. However, it’s one of the most unselfish processes that will help you become a better person.
Finding yourself is not difficult as long you know what you need to do and take action. Most people across the world tend to procrastinate when it comes to finding themselves. Yet, this is one of the key determinants of the quality of their lives.
You need to start by making sense of your past. To understand yourself and how you behave the way you do, you need to know your unique story. Being willing to explore your past is one of the best paths to take if you want to understand yourself and the person you want to be.
The attitude and environment that you grew up in greatly affect how you think and behave as an adult.
Early life experiences determine how you see and defend yourself. For instance, being raised by a harsh parent could be making you feel guarded. And this will stop you from trying new challenges as you’ll fear being ridiculed by others.
To break away from this behavioral pattern, you should always be ready to look for self-destructive or self-limiting tendencies.
Another easy way to find yourself is by silencing your critical inner voice and negative thoughts. This destructive process can be a judgmental attitude that tells you how you are not the ideal person to succeed or you don’t deserve the good things in life.
When you recognize and face this huge enemy, you’ll learn how to find your true self and know your abilities and strengths.
If you want to discover who you truly are, you have to be okay with getting lost. Here are 4 simple steps that you can use to heal your inner world and find yourself when you feel lost in life.
1. Unplug to Connect to Yourself
In a society where we are constantly engaged with multiple forms of technology such as social media, it’s easy to feel disconnected from yourself.
Modern technology allows us to connect to anyone in the world whenever we want. It has become a tool through which we can obtain endless amounts of knowledge in a second. Unfortunately, it has also caused us to become more disconnected from ourselves, one another, and life in general.
Computer and communication technology gives us “virtual” reality which means “almost like or very similar to, but not quite the same as.” [3] In this way, technology has become an escape from the realities of life for a long time.
Have you ever done a digital detox for one day, one week, or even one month? Do you feel anxious thinking about it?
Unplugging isn’t just about disconnecting from the digital world. Rather, it’s about spending time on your mental health and focusing on what is important to YOU
I encourage you to make it a daily practice of switching off mentally and emotionally from all forms of technology, even if it’s just for one hour. Remove all distractions and pay attention to your environment and others.
This will help you find the quietness that feels good to you and allows you to go inward in a way that nourishes your mind, body, and soul.
2. Take Big Risks
Get real with yourself: are you playing it too safe right now? Any time that I’ve stayed within the boundaries of my comfort zone for too long, I find myself feeling bored and uninspired.
The biggest reason that so many people are unhappy is that they choose mediocrity over risk. They go with the safe and practical route because they don’t want to shake the boat.
The status quo is a much safer option. In fact, by nature, we seek it out. This idea is supported by advances in brain imaging technology which now verifies that we are wired to be risk-averse. [4]
Unfortunately, playing it safe gets you nowhere. In my experience, this is the quickest way to feel lost in life, and it’s not the way to learn how to find yourself.
If life were always predictable, you would never change. Hence, you would never grow.
Change is the only constant in life. If you aren’t willing to ride the change train, you will get left behind. Being uncomfortable is the only way that we learn who we are and who we are not. That’s how we become the best versions of ourselves.
3. Tune out the Noise and Dream Big
There will always be someone who doesn’t agree with your path in life. No matter what you do or say, there will be opinions and judgments. It’s up to you whether or not you get plugged into them.
People get into trouble when they start allowing other people to dictate the direction of their lives. If you want to learn how to find yourself, don’t let anybody tell you that the things you desire in life are too extravagant or unreachable. Staying true to who you are involves staying in your own lane and defining your own self-worth.
In the words of the late great, Steve Jobs:
“Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”
When we begin to suppress our dreams, we take the first step into being comfortable with less than what we really want in life.
Don’t be afraid to take a risk and dream big. The only person that is holding you back is you, so get out of your own way.
Even the most successful in this world were ridiculed for their lofty goals and dreams. Did that stop them? No, and it’s not going to stop you either.
4. Challenge Your Internal Narrative
If you want to change your life and create a healthy relationship with yourself, you’ve got to start challenging your internal narrative. If you are constantly saying, “I’m lost” or “I’m unfixable,” that is exactly what you will continue attracting into your life.
When you feel lost in life, it can be easy to get stuck in a mindset where you allow yourself to be comfortable with things that don’t make you fulfilled. If you fall into the trap of identifying as “lost” for too long, you might find yourself accepting this reality.
I encourage you to recite daily affirmations to remind yourself that your position in life is not permanent. With regards to reducing negative thoughts, affirmations have been shown to help with the tendency to linger on negative experiences for too long. [7]
When you are able to replace negative internal messages with more positive ones, you can create a more empowering narrative about who you are and what you can accomplish.
Try to repeat the following phrase after you wake up tomorrow morning:
“I am not lost. I am on a journey of transformation.”
If this doesn’t resonate with you, make up your own affirmation and repeat it throughout the day whenever you feel lost.
Benefits From Finding Yourself
It can be quite difficult to comprehend how your journey will look like. However, you can try figuring out how you want it to feel. How do you want to feel regularly?
You need to identify all the positive emotions that you want to feel and because they’ll help in guiding you to achieve your goal. Having such a goal in mind will motivate you during the days when you don’t feel like working towards your objective. Keep on keeping on because every day, you are closer to reaching your goals and dreams.
Final Thoughts
No matter how hard life gets, remember that losing yourself doesn’t have to be a bad thing. It means re-evaluating what is important to you.
It’s an opportunity to start a new chapter in your epic life and create whatever you want. Spending time alone and doing what you love is one of the best ways to understand yourself. As Henry David Thoreau said:
“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.”
7 Steps To Find Yourself When You Feel Lost
There was a period in my life when I felt completely lost. I had plenty of responsibilities and endless lists of things that had to be done. But none of these things afforded me any sense of purpose or prolonged joy.
It seemed like I was on a treadmill, doing the same things every day and trying to fill my time with distractions and busy work. I started to feel like a stranger to myself, unsure of what I was meant to do and who I was supposed to be.
The most difficult part of this time was feeling completely powerless to change my situation. I had no idea what I wanted or needed to make things better, and I didn’t have a clue about how to find out.
In retrospect, I recognize that I was in a life transition period, shedding the person I once was while trying to figure out who I was to become. These periods of life can feel very scary and lonely.
Have you ever felt like you are lost and stuck in a rut?
Have you ever felt lost to yourself, like you are a stranger inhabiting your body?
Whether it is in your personal or professional life, if you feel like you are living the wrong life, or that what you are doing each day lacks meaning and authenticity, you are likely to feel lost.
As isolating and lonely as this situation feels, you certainly aren’t alone. Everyone goes through periods of disconnection, uncertainty, and apathy.
It doesn’t mean your life is over if you aren’t sure how to find yourself again. It just means that you are in a transitional phase that you have to work your way out of.
The key to discovering yourself again is to step out of your rut, take action, and work to create a life you love again. Like me, though, you may have no idea how to go about that.
Seven steps on how to find yourself again when you feel lost
1. Don’t fight how you feel.
You can’t create a better life for yourself if you try to ignore or suppress your feelings. Recognize that your feelings are valid, and accept it is time to make a change.
To discover yourself again, you must endure the darkness of going through the transitional period, rather than trying to circumvent it.
It may feel safer to stick with your normal routine and bury your head in the sand, but you will never gain true happiness if you are living a lie.
Self-awareness is always the first step toward change, and to move forward in life, you must be open to examining your feelings.
Being aware of your emotions can reveal a lot about your current life situation and might become a catalyst for a positive change.
2. Remember what you are passionate about.
Can you recall the last time you really enjoyed yourself? Was there ever a time when life felt easy and full of purpose?
These times were satisfying because you were engaging in something you were passionate about.
As time goes by, we forget how much fun life can be because we’re burdened by responsibilities and routines. It’s important to reconnect with your passions in life and take action to make them a part of your routine or even your profession.
Stop telling yourself that you don’t have enough time, money, or resources to follow your passions. Commit to things that you are passionate about and watch your life begin to change for the better.
3. Make a timeline of your life up until this point.
A good way to finding your inner self when you’re feeling lost is to make a timeline of the events that have made up your journey so far. This is a beneficial way to help recognize the periods of your life when you experienced the most happiness.
List any achievements, regrets, and momentous events, including the positive and the negative. Write down everything you can think of.
When you come across a negative experience, think about what you learned from the experience and what you might need to change in your life to prevent this from happening again.
When you are reflecting on the positives, drill down to what felt good about those times, exactly what you were doing, and how these experiences changed you. Ask yourself if there’s something about these past positives that you’d like to revisit now.
4. Stop and listen.
Take pause every day to notice the inspirational signs and messages that might motivate you to act.
Living with digital distractions, short attention spans, and over-packed schedules, we have a hard time slowing down enough to recognize the signs all around us.
Be more present with your surroundings and start paying attention to the details of life — the signs on the road, what you are listening to on the radio, and each person you come in contact with throughout the day.
Be mindful of the guidance around you to help you progress on your path. The key to finding who you are could come to you as a passing thought as you are driving to work or as a casual observation from a friend.
Stop to listen and follow through when you feel inspired.
5. Reconnect with old friends.
People frequently lose touch with friends because they stop putting forth the effort to connect with them on a regular basis.
Reconnect with old contacts you haven’t talked to in a long time to see where their life has taken them and what they are doing to keep themselves fulfilled and happy.
This effort can be especially beneficial if you reach out to a friend from a time in your life when you felt like you knew yourself well.
Fostering those nostalgic feelings of being confident about yourself and your future can help redirect you on the best path.
6. Update your mindset.
We all have beliefs that we’ve embraced over the years that are no longer beneficial to our lives.
For example, having the belief that you don’t have what it takes to create a happy, purposeful life, or believing that you are not worthy of having a great life, are examples of some beliefs that you need to change.
Your state of mind is a power when it comes to your overall happiness and your perception of reality. If you have felt lost for a while, it may be because you are still holding onto certain beliefs that are blocking you and holding you back.
These feelings dictate how you experience your current reality, and if that perceived reality is less your expectations, it is time to update your mindset.
Whether you start saying mantras, using affirmations or meeting with a therapist, updating your mindset is an important part of creating a permanent change and escaping the feeling of being lost.
7. Trust yourself.
You have to learn to trust yourself and the new path you are following, even if you have moments of doubt.
Believe in yourself and realize that you have everything you need in order to flourish. Have faith in your own judgment, wisdom, and intelligence, and other people will have faith in you as well.
It is also important to trust that things can change in an instant. The amazing thing about life is that it never stops evolving.
While you may feel stuck right now, the world around you is constantly transforming, and things can improve for you in an instant.
Often, people get stuck in retelling the story of how difficult life is without realizing that they are perpetuating a cycle of the negativity. However, if you trust that your circumstances can improve in an instant, you open yourself up to seeing opportunities when they present themselves.
Remember that the most valuable relationship you will have in life is the relationship that you have with yourself. Learning to trust your intuition and inner voice will help you go a long way in the process of finding yourself again.
As lost as you may feel right now, do something every day to try to find out who you are and what you want in life. Keep your mind open and pay attention to even the most insignificant opportunities that come your way.
Try to enjoy the process of uncovering your new life rather than resisting this place of transition. Recognize that this is a vital and necessary part of life, and embrace it as a sacred journey.
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How to find yourself in this crazy world and discover who you are
We all struggle to know ourselves in a profound way; some more than others.
But with some simple steps and the development of good reflective habits, you can come to know yourself in a meaningful way that helps you get the most out of your life.
If you are struggling to find your way, it might time to sit down and start making sense of your life as it was, as it is, and as it will be.
Here is a guide to help you find out who you really are in the world.
How to find yourself: 12 steps when you’re feeling lost in life
To find an answer to a question “how to find yourself”, you`d better begin by doing things you love, because that`s a way to success.
Go this way and the answer to this question will make itself clear.
Here are many tips on how to find yourself in life and where you should start! Go for it!
Keep in mind that everybody has his preferences and talents, you only need to find out what you really like, what your idea of fun is, what brings you pleasure.
«Either I will find a way, or I will make one.»
Sidney.
1. How to find yourself? What do you do in your free time?
In most cases, things that people do in their free time help them to identify their life purpose.
For example, you love drawing.
You need to understand that drawing is the key point, which suggests a direction for your future searching.
The same can be said about your hobbies, let it be cooking, business negotiations or singing.
The most important thing is that you should not miss these key points.
Don`t be indifferent!
Stop telling: “I`ll never make a career on drawing anyway… I won`t be able to earn enough money… I`d better live a normal life and stop asking this question about finding yourself”.
These are the words of loser, not the winner…
How shall we find and analyze these key points?
Somebody likes studying, learning new and interesting things, suppose his aim in life is teaching?
Think of what you do in your free time and what you`d like to do.
2. How to find yourself? Think of what activity you like best.
Your life goals are very closely related to your hobbies, things you like and things that make you pleased. Most wealthy, determined people do only what they enjoy, what they want to do.
For example, Oprah Winfrey likes helping people, listening to them and giving valuable tips; Bill Gates is a fan of computers and he has earned his billions on that.
And what do you like?
You may probably enjoy writing interesting and emotional stories, or taking exercise, or creating masterpieces with your brush, or cooking all sorts of goodies.
Or maybe you cannot imagine yourself without interacting with people? Are you good at listening and watching?
Or maybe you prefer sales and small business?
Whatever your choice is, your aim in life will be closely connected with your hobbies and your ideas, which will help you to open your eyes and answer the question: “How to find yourself?”
3. How to find yourself or Why do people like me?
You may have admirers who just can’t live without your baked duck with garlic sauce.
In fact, judge for yourself: if no one is crazy about your cooking, you can hardly become a chef 🙂
Or maybe somebody gets mad seeing you dance or sing?
You see, EVERY person has his own unique ability, which is appreciated by other people!
The main thing is to find and improve this ability!
4. How to find yourself: what would you like to learn?
What books, magazines, and newspapers do you like to read? Do you get pleasure from reading about business, fishing, cooking?
You should always consider your preferences as a hint of what problem you have to solve in your life.
Suppose you want to create your library, what books will you buy, what subjects will you choose? You may probably like books on self-knowledge and self-development.
5. How to find yourself or what awakens your desire to be creative?
What makes you move forward, what stimulates you?
Can any situation in your life be a powerful incentive to create an original painting?
Do you run to the kitchen to make a cooking experiment every time you see a new recipe of something delicious?
What makes you move forward?
6. How to find yourself: what do you pay attention to?
For example, a hairdresser always pays attention to the hairstyles of everybody; the seller can easily tell whether the goods would be in demand; the mechanic can identify the problem with a car hearing the slightest sound from it.
And what do you pay attention to?
All your answers are the key signs that will help you to answer your disturbing question: «How to find yourself?»
7. If you knew you were going to be successful, what would you do in the future?
Someone would create his own SPA (relaxation of body and soul), another would like to try his hand in various TV shows, and somebody else has a dream to open his own auto park.
Any of your replies or ideas can be a key sign that will help you to find your aim in life!
Never give up your self-development! Take care of yourself! 🙂
How to Find Yourself: 13 Steps To Self-Discovery (Tools & Examples)
Throughout one’s life, the inevitable question of “how do I find myself?” often arises. Identity doubts arise from questioning a variety of places, such as questioning your career path, noticing unfulfillment in your daily life, or particular traumatic events.
Regardless, not knowing your core values and who you are as a person can be a frightening feeling. Additionally, it can lead to stagnating in your career, decreased interpersonal skills, and fear about your future.
However, do not fret yet. While finding yourself takes time and commitment, the reward is immense: being better in tune with yourself, both your thoughts, goals, values, and feelings.
In this article, we will discuss the most commonly used strategies during the self-discovery process and the benefits of finding yourself.
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Importance of Finding Yourself & List of 10 Benefits
Living life with confidence in your values and who you are as an individual brings a plethora of benefits. It gives you direction in growth through life, which helps you make successful careers and relationship decisions.
It can also give you a true sense of identity, making you more comfortable with who you are. However, there are so many other immense benefits that come with understanding yourself.
List of 10 Benefits by Finding Yourself
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How to Find Yourself in 13 Steps
Finding your true self is often challenging. The start of the journey is almost always the most daunting aspect. Nonetheless, having a general outline for how to tackle self-discovery is a useful tool. Below, you will find the 13 steps which are essential to your self-discovery.
1. Try to figure out what’s important to you
Your values are a major part of your personality and aspirations. In fact, most goals and decisions are in some way or form related to your values. Finding which values contribute most to your personality and which people or places matter most to you can help you realize who and what to focus on.
Ask yourself: is there anyone I cannot live without? Is there an activity I love so much I can’t imagine not ever doing it? Which values make me who I am?
2. Start going places by yourself
While there are certainly benefits to family travel, going places solo can help you be more in tune with yourself. You will be focused more on your desires and thoughts, as opposed to primarily placing values on others’ needs in group travel.
If you are a very extroverted person, traveling alone may feel odd at first. The more you travel solo, though, the easier it gets. Plus, it can help you uncover your true identity and boost your self-awareness.
3. Get out and try new things
You may already know lots, but there is no limit to your learning potential. With ample time to explore yourself, you may recognize new qualities and strengths you never knew you possessed. New experiences do not have to be complex or overly sophisticated.
In fact, they can be as simple as trying out a new sport or putting a conscious effort into exploring local boutiques. Through such experiences, you will become acquainted with the unexplored parts of your personality.
4. Evaluate times where you felt comfortable with yourself
Almost everyone can recall times where they felt self-confident, and also times where they felt self-conscious. Think about a time you felt internally strong, such as when you worked hard to achieve a certain position at work or powered through a difficult workout.
It can be a small or seemingly insignificant moment, but even then, explore why you felt so confident and happy. Consider who was around you, which values you fulfilled, and what decisions you made. Then, you can surround yourself with the same people or use similar strategies to feel self-confident more often.
5. Think about your family life
When someone first enters adulthood, there is often confusion with the place they have in their family. If your parents still treat you as a child, or you find yourself getting involved in childish affairs, your family interactions could be holding back your maturity.
To get out of this uncomfortable situation, try to avoid following your impulses. Rationalize with your parents and ensure you are not looked down upon by anyone. Once you act more maturely and independently, your adult identity becomes more prominent.
6. Overcome bad habits
Be honest with yourself by noticing which behaviors of yours are truly detrimental to your long-term success. After that, you can replace those bad behaviors with activities that are in line with your values.
Plus, the habit learning process can help you develop stamina and persistence. Once you overcome a bad habit, you will likely feel more proud and confident – two key emotions to feeling comfortable with yourself.
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7. Practice mindfulness
You can overcome the hustle, bustle, and noise of everyday life by practicing mindfulness. The term itself has become somewhat vapid over the past few years, but rest assured, mindfulness still provides immense benefits.
Simply practicing deep breathing or doing a bit of yoga are two practical ways to be more mindful. There are also lots of mindfulness apps you can download if you are still struggling.
8. Silence your critical inner voice
Everyone has that voice in the back of their head which makes them doubt themselves and focus on their weaknesses. You must take control of your thoughts and try looking at both your strengths and weaknesses from a different, more positive perspective.
If you fail, for instance, tell yourself that failure is a part of the journey. Continuous effort is what will help you succeed long term. Do not let negative thoughts fill your mind, as this leads to self-sabotaging behavior. Then, you can chase the goals that matter most to you.
9. Devalue other’s opinions of you
Realize that you do not have to please everyone to be happy. In fact, putting too large of an emphasis on others’ opinions could be causing you to lose your sense of self.
To start a journey toward authenticity, you must primarily focus on your own goals and desires, not other’s. If you struggle with this notion, consider the way you view society: there are clearly people you like, others you dislike, and some who are neutral.
The same should be true with others viewing you, so do not fret about not being loved by everyone.
10. Volunteer (for charity or otherwise)
Try to seek out a new charity you are not familiar with, and work with them to try new things while bettering the community. Volunteering often gives individuals a feeling of gratitude, as they see others less fortunate than them and begin to pay closer attention to things they take for granted.
Plus, donating and volunteering are both ways to align your actions with your values. There is no better feeling than knowing you helped others, too.
11. Try unplugging
Oftentimes, phones and technology distract individuals from their inner feelings and true thoughts. Distancing yourself from technology can help you be more in tune with your emotions and thoughts. Avoid taking your phone out whenever confronted with discomfort.
Instead, refectory on the situation and why the feeling of discomfort arises. Using this strategy, you will learn more about your triggers and get a chance to grow.
12. Notice your uniqueness and what separates you from others
The modern fast-paced lifestyle can sometimes blur our ability to notice our uniqueness. Try dedicating time to recognizing your unique abilities, strengths, and quirks.
You could even try thinking about how you would react in certain situations, and how your decisions would differ from others. Asking your friends or coworkers for some honest input on your unique qualities can help you ensure that others notice your uniqueness.
13. Consider therapy
Self-discovery is not a simple process. Sometimes, the best way to proceed with the journey is through professional help. Therapists are skilled in finding the right questions to ask so you unlock your strength. Having the help of a life coach or therapist often speeds up your self-growth.
Their immense experience with real people similar to you can help you look at yourself from a new perspective. Different types of therapy serve specific purposes on your self-discovery journey.
For instance, interpersonal therapy helps you uncover the role your family played in your decisions and behaviors. Cognitive-behavior therapy teaches you to think and talk about yourself in a more positive light.
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How to Find Yourself in Certain Situations
A number of problems can make self-discovery even more difficult than it already is. Your inner emotions and self-doubts can also contribute to the difficulty of this journey. Remember, though, that self-discovery is possible given enough time and effort.
Below are a few ways you can find yourself in specific challenging circumstances:
How to Find Yourself in a Relationship
Reflect back to more positive times in your relationship. What made you initially feel happy, and why are you attracted to your partner? Once you understand what makes you happy, try doing those activities more often with your spouse.
Also, ensure you stand your ground about your beliefs and desires. Even when you fight, ensure that your voice is heard. Try to be reasonable with your spouse, but do not bend your values. If you find your values are in direct conflict with your spouse’s, it may be time to reconsider the relationship.
How to Find Yourself When You are Lost
Feeling lost is common after certain traumatic or negative events, such as a breakup or getting fired from your job. Rekindle your strengths and positive feelings by dedicating time to do what you love more often. Also, consider spending time with those that make you feel the happiest.
While being surrounded by positivity is important, spending time reflecting alone is equally important to your self-discovery. Try to create a list of your unique traits, goals, values, and strengths.
Remind yourself that you are unique each day, and align your tasks with your greatest interests. This clearer sense of passion and individuality can help you find yourself after feeling lost.
How to Find Yourself Again
Some are able to find themselves, but quickly lose their common sense of self because they do not implement certain helpful strategies long-term. If you have already found yourself once, try to look back at the strategies you used to do so.
Are you still using them? If not, were they proven ineffective, or did you just lose dedication? If you found that you simply lost dedication, try reusing your old techniques again. However, if your prior strategies are ineffective, explore new ways to discover yourself through new activities.
How to Find Yourself Online
The web can be a helpful tool in the self-discovery process. You can even find a high-quality therapist from the comfort of your home. Unlike traditional therapy, online therapy is often less invasive, more comfortable, and less time-consuming, as you never leave your home.
Looking back at your past social media posts can also bring back memories of times where you truly knew yourself. Recall what made you fulfilled during those moments (the people? The place? Or something else?).
How to Find Yourself Spiritually
To improve your spiritual self, you must first try a few methods of self-discovery. Begin by looking for the deeper meaning in everyday tasks and analyzing patterns of the world around you. See if the universe (or God) is guiding you in a certain direction based on these patterns.
Try to think positively, and replace negative thoughts/criticism with positive affirmations. In addition, being mindful can also boost your spiritual well-being while also helping you find yourself. Meditating, reflecting, journaling, or simply stopping to smell the flowers are all forms of mindfulness.
How to Find Yourself After Break Up
Finding yourself after a breakup usually involves the goal of returning to your prior more happy self. Before you can become more confident and authentic, acknowledge that you are not any of the negative ideas your spouse projected on you.
All of the names he or she called you are simply reflections of their own insecurities and immaturity. Be compassionate and forgiving to yourself. Allow yourself to make mistakes, but simply learn from them without putting yourself down.
Go out and experience the world around you. Try the things your spouse never let you do, and be free! This freedom will lead to self-discovery of your interests, passions, values, and strengths.
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How to Find Myself – Best Inspiring Quotes
The best form of inspiration comes from hearing the experiences of those who achieved what we wish to achieve. Some celebrities have successfully embarked on a self-discovery journey. Today, they share their experiences with people interested in doing the same.
Below, you will find a list of quotes from individuals who found themselves after a period of feeling lost.
1. “As I began to love myself, I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is authenticity.” – Charlie Chaplin
2. ”‘Finding yourself’ is not really how it works. You aren’t a ten-dollar bill in last winter’s coat pocket. You are also not lost. Your true self is right there, buried under cultural conditioning, other people’s opinions, and inaccurate conclusions you drew as a kid that became your beliefs about who you are. ‘Finding yourself’ is actually returning to yourself. An unlearning, an excavation, a remembering who you were before the world got its hands on you.” – Emily McDowell
3. ”Finding yourself is a time of harmony because you develop that philosophy or belief system that will carry you throughout the rest of your life. When you love yourself, and who you are, you will savor and enjoy both life’s pain and pleasures.” – James Seaton
4. “There is no greater suffering than constantly measuring yourself coming up short, except perhaps the realization that your suffering is hurting others. But where do we learn these things? We don’t come crying out of the womb because of our birth weight or because we have no money in this brand new world. We learn to measure, and we learn to attach our self-worth to those measurements.” – Vironika Tugaleua
5. “You can reinvent yourself, darling. You are that kind of powerful. But you know where the magic really is? In reinventing your relationship with yourself. You’re that kind of powerful too.” – S.C. Lourie
6. “Love yourself enough to create an environment in your life that is conducive to the nourishment of your personal growth. Allow yourself to let go of the people, thoughts, and situations that poison your well-being. Cultivate a vibrant surrounding and commit yourself to making choices that will help you release the greatest expression of your unique beauty and purpose.” – Steve Maraboli
7. “One was a book I read by Mahatma Gandhi. In it was a passage where he said that religion, the pursuing of the inner journey, should not be separated from the pursuing of the outer and social journey, because we are not isolated beings.” – Satish Kumar