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How To Get A Girlfriend: 20 Steps To Make Her Choose You

You’re about to discover how to get a girlfriend by becoming her obvious choice, so the girl you like chooses you over all the other guys chasing her.

There’s no wishy washy bullsh*t here like “be more confident” or “talk to more girls”.

Just 20 proven steps you can start using right now to attract the girl you like and make her your girlfriend.

How To Get A Girlfriend Part 1. Meeting Girls

Stop trying to get a girlfriend. The first step to getting a girlfriend is to stop trying. Instead go into every new interaction you have with women expecting nothing in return. You’ll be surprised by how “not giving a shit” about the outcome makes girls chase you.

You see, most guys will do everything they can to please girls into liking them, but guys who couldn’t care less about impressing random girls stand out like a rose amongst thorns.

Women want a challenge, so when a guy comes along who isn’t afraid to speak his mind and disagree with women it shows he’s a guy worth talking to.

Make her notice you. Wear items of clothing and jewellery that attract women and start conversations. Leather jackets, jewellery and tailored suits are a great place to start. You could even go as far as getting that tattoo you’ve always wanted 😉

Anything you can do to mix things up from how you present yourself will work wonders at attracting a whole new wave of female attention.

Already have a special girl in mind? If you’ve got her number check out my best advice on what to text a girl a girl you like. (You’ll discover how to keep her hooked and get a date).

Get ready to approach her. Before you approach her get rid of any other excuses that are stopping you in your tracks, for example, assuming she won’t be interested in you if you’ve never had a girlfriend.

Limiting beliefs like that will get you nowhere.

Here’s how to re-write some common negative excuses with positive reasons to TAKE ACTION!

“It’s no use talking to her, she won’t be interested in me” = “I should go talk to her she looks bored”

“She’s out of my league” = “I wonder if she’s cool enough to hang out with?”

This will help you approach girls you like with positivity and you’ll naturally become an extremely attractive guy to be around.

If you prefer video learning we recommend this video:

(You can learn how to turn any “cold” girl you know into your girlfriend)

Approach her with confidence. Now that you’re ready, it’s time to approach her. Smile, relax your body language and approach in a non confrontational way like you’d do when you’re in Wallmart asking a shelf stacker where the butter’s at.

As you talk to her watch that your vocal inflection isn’t too high and annoying like you need something, for example when a beggar says “excuse me, can you spare any change. ” No one can stand needy requests from strangers they’ve just met, especially “excuse me”. That’s a big attraction killer right there.

Instead use a neutral or downwards vocal inflection. If you have a voice like Vin Diesel then you’re in luck 😉

As you’re talking to her make sure you keep smiling and lean a little backwards so you’re not all up in her face. Hold eye contact and tell her why you simply had to come say hello.

The best way to do this is with a genuine compliment.

Give her a genuine compliment. Tell her exactly why you approached her and be as specific if you can. Use the first think you noticed about her that attracted you. Perhaps it’s her her cute smile, her dimples, or if you see her a lot maybe this time her hair is tied back for the first time.

If she’s a stranger and you meet her in the day, “Hey, I know this is random but I just walked past you and thought I have to go back and talk to that girl.”

But if you meet her in a bar there’s no need to mention any awkwardness. Just “Hello” or “Hi, I saw you from across the bar.” is enough 😉

Tease her. Teasing is the easiest way to create sexual tension between you and a girl you like. Start teasing girls on a regular basis.

For example, if a girl says she likes cats you can say “Wait…you’re a cat lady? How many cats do you have? If it’s more than 9 we’re not gonna work out”.

In the split second it takes for her to realise you’re just teasing (and not insulting her) she experiences a massive feeling of euphoric relief. That feeling is usually accompanied by laughter and maybe even a punch on the arm for you if you’re lucky 😉

The more you tease women and give them that little tension to relief “high”, the more they’ll become attracted, because when you fearlessly tease women it sends them a subconscious message that your genes rock.

It shows her you’re a not afraid of risking confrontation and that she can rely on you to stick to your beliefs and tell the truth. You’re a protector not a pushover.

Opportunities for teasing will happen naturally when you stick to your opinions and stop fake agreeing with women to please them all the time.

Always be looking out for cute things she says or does so you can point them out as being cute or funny.

Focus on her for conversation. Listen to her and make her the main subject of your conversation. You’ll create countless opportunities for teasing her and you’ll never be lost for conversation topics.

It’s no secret that girls like guys who listen to them so give her what she wants: Your ears.

When the focus is on her you leave much less room for error from your side, plus it gives you plenty of opportunities to tease her since she’ll hand deliver material to you on a silver platter.

Why did you choose this table? No, clearly you chose it because you saw me sitting here!
What brought you to the park? Oh, I thought you were rummaging for food in the bins!
Why do you hate dogs? She must be a cat lady. Assume she has twelve cats.

As soon as you disagree with something or find something she says cute you can say “I don’t think you and me are going to get along”, or something to that effect.

She’ll walk away from the conversation thinking “that guy was so much fun” when actually all she was doing was talking about herself. But remember, you mustn’t let her walk away until you get her number!

Get her number. When you feel like the conversation has reached it’s peak, make your excuses for leaving and get her number.

Even if you’re in a bar and she’s not going anywhere it’s always good to walk away for a bit to go join your mates and give her some space so she rejoin her friends and tell them all about you.

Chances are later in the night she’ll come find you again and you can take things further.

This is what’s known as the push-pull effect. It’s always important to pull back a little in any fresh interaction so she doesn’t get worried you’re never going to leave.

To get her number simply hand her your phone and tell her you’ll text her.

Part 2. Going On Dates

Ask her out on a date. Don’t try to achieve everything in one text. Build her curiosity, comfort and excitement about meeting up with you first, then ask her out on a date.

An easy way to naturally steer the conversation towards a date is to insinuate the idea of a date first.

Perhaps you meet her in a coffee shop and she’s a coffee addict? You can then mention some new boutique coffee shop that’s opened up in town.

Then simply put the two things together an suggest it’s time you go check out that new coffee shop together, e.g.

Texting has its own set of rules and etiquette, but here’s a few important pointers to keep you on track when you’re texting a girl you like:

– Send it and forget it – don’t overthink things. After you text her go about your day and don’t double text if she takes ages to reply.
– Keep it positive – if your text doesn’t make you smile or LOL then don’t send it.
– Be playful – texting is for flirting and setting up dates, not for deep or boring conversations. She wants a lover not a friend.
– End the conversation – Always end the conversation when it reaches its peak. It’s better to leave her on the edge of her seat than push things too far and risk becoming her text buddy.

For more texting tips I wrote a full article on how to text a girl without her losing interest here.

VIDEO: If you want to get a girlfriend quickly watch this:

(It’s the best way to get the girl of your dreams in a short space of time)

Where to go on a date. Choose a location that is relaxed, informal and has activities you can get physically intimate with. Avoid dinner dates for the first date. They’re awkward, expensive and way too formal.

If however she insists on dinner then make sure you either suggest splitting the bill, or say “I’ll get this and you can get the drinks after.” If she’s big on equal rights she won’t be able to say no! 😉

So what kind of place is good for a first date?

Zoos are great because you never run out of conversation topics and things to do. She’ll grab you when she sees a cute animal or a scary one and after you’ve seen dozens of different animals it feels like you’ve travelled the world together, so there’s this distorted sense of time like you’ve known each other for ages.

Get involved in feeding the animals, giraffes, elephants and goats. It’s a hell of a lot of fun and if she’s comfortable around you she’ll grab you a lot which feels amazing!

Other great locations for intimacy include Hookah bars, bars in general, arcades and ten pin bowling.

Cinema is ok for a second date but not for a first date. You can’t talk, it’s awkward as f*ck and pretty tormenting because all you can think about is making a move and if nothing’s happened by the time the credits roll you walk out feeling like a lead balloon.

On the date start by complimenting her. Women can spend hours choosing a dress, putting on make up and doing their hair for the first date. She’s done this all for you don’t forget to show your appreciation with an honest compliment.

“Wow…you look amazing”.

Have high expectations. Having high expectations of people communicates to them that you are high status and not a pushover. This is incredibly attractive to women because it shows her you respect and love yourself. You are sure of yourself and adamant about getting what you want.

A great way to reveal this attractive trait is to call her out if she’s late for the date, for example:

She’ll respect you more for it and make a mental note to never do it again. She’ll probably even make up for her lateness with a kiss later!

A high value male will also be a true gentleman and treat a lady like a lady and be respectful of others. Help her sit down, open doors and overdo it in a chivalrous way. Show you care about her and others by tipping waiters or bar staff.

To get respect you must earn respect.

Conversation topics to avoid on the date. Avoid these 7 conversation topics on the date at all costs. The main reason these 7 topics are so destructive is because they kill the mood and spark debate not chemistry.

Talking about exes or girls who’ve slipped through your fingers – If you’re negative about past experiences with women you’ll sound bitter. If you’re positive you’ll sound like you’re still pining for someone. In either case it’s best you avoid talk of “lovers lost” completely.

Bragging about how rich you are – Only gold diggers want to know how many cars you have. Quality women will see bragging for what it is: a shallow way of proving yourself to please people into liking you.

Complaints about your job – Any talk of work is usually boring and negative. Oh and keep any resentment for your job to yourself. No-one wants to hear it.

Religion – Don’t go there unless your only objective is to become a celibate monk.

Money – Save it for the bank. Instead of money talk about your goals in life.

Politics – Politics and hot topics lead to heated discussion and debates. Do you want to debate and fall out or do you want to gyrate and make out? See what I did there? 😉

Negative and toxic relationships – Again, don’t bring drama out with you on the date, leave talk of toxic relationships in the trash can where they belong.

“Where do you see this going?” – First dates aren’t about signing contracts and locking down the future terms of your relationship. They’re about living in the moment, so save questions that put her in an awkward position like “what are you looking for?”.

Watch this video if you want to get up to speed quickly:

(With this you can get a girlfriend in 2 weeks)

Make her like you by being yourself. You may not realise this but the reason you’ve been stuck with how to get a girlfriend is because you are not yourself around the women you’re attracted to.

let me repeat that:

You are not yourself around the women you’re attracted to.

We’ve addressed a lot of things that turn women off and one of the biggest “A-HA!” moments you’ve probably had whilst reading this article is that you’ve always been trying to please women into liking you.

You’ve avoided confrontation, you’ve avoided teasing and you have never felt comfortable about expressing your true burning sexual desire for the girls you’re attracted to.

Now that you finally understand this the seas will part, water will turn into wine and you will walk on water through the leggy gates of heaven and into the land of milk and honey!

Flirt with her physically. Once you stop worrying about the outcome with every girl you meet, relax and actually have some fun, physical flirting will start happening naturally!

Earlier I recommended date locations that organically create opportunities for physical contact.

If you’re worried about a girl’s reaction to you touching her, start with these baby steps:

– Brush something out of her hair but purposefully graze her neck with the back of your hand
– If you’re sitting next to her, rest your hand next to her nearest leg and touch her outer thigh with your little finger
– High five her and lock fingers for a split second then release her
– Playfully hit her on the arm or lightly push her away from you whenever she teases you

If her reaction is positive you can increase the time you touch her, if her response is negative then pull away and try again later.

You’ll know she’s comfortable about physical contact when she starts giving it back to you, like leaning on your arm, grabbing your hand, playfully pushing you, etc.

These are all clear signs she’s both comfortable around you and most importantly… attracted!

Once you’re damn sure she’s flirting back it’s time to seal the deal and release all the sexual tension with a kiss.

Part 3. Closing The Deal

Make a move and kiss her. Women want to be overwhelmingly desired, not rationally considered, so as soon as you start reading the signs she’s into you it’s your job to make a move and kiss her.

Here are some other signs to look for just to be sure you won’t get rejected when you make your move:

– She plays with her hair when she’s talking to you
– She keeps looking at your lips
– She laughs at all your jokes (even if they’re not funny)
– She leans in closely to hear you speak, rather than you leaning into her

Trust me, these are all bright green lights she wants you to kiss her!

When you make your move don’t force it, let it happen when there’s a brief pause in the conversation and you’re both gazing into each others eyes.

The way to know when the moment is right is when you’re both smiling, you’re in very close proximity to each other (maybe even already touching) and her eyes quickly dart down from your eyes to your lips.

Even if she rejects you the first time she’ll respect you for having the balls to try and will probably accept your advances the second time you try.

That’s the thing, a lot of guys give up after getting rejected the first time. This is a classic rookie mistake because she probably did want to kiss you but you either read the moment wrong and forced it, she wasn’t prepared and it took her by surprise or she felt uncomfortable about kissing in public.

Whatever the case you’ll get better at reading the situation the more times you try.

Do not try to lock down another date. At the end of first date kiss her on the cheek and say “tonight was fun, we should do it again sometime”.

Keep her hooked by making her wonder what you mean by “sometime”.

Women want a challenge just as much as we do, so don’t give too much away, especially in the early stages of dating, otherwise you’ll kill the thrill of the chase and she’ll quickly lose interest.

Keep her hooked between dates. Keep her hooked between dates by not always being available, making her wonder about you and flirting with the future.

When you’re too available and text her back immediately every time it’ll make her think you have nothing else going on in your life.

Although she may appear upset or pissed at you she secretly does not want you to put her first, especially when you are only “sort of dating” and not invested emotionally in a relationship yet, e.g.

The less available you are, the more curious she’ll get and rather than answering a girl’s questions “matter of fact-ly” you should aim to respond in a playful way that keeps her curious about you, e.g.

The more you keep her wondering about you the more excited she will be about going on another date with you.

This is exactly how to get a girl totally and utterly obsessed with you.

By remaining jokey and essentially disqualifying yourself from anything serious you will keep her wondering about you:

Because expressing your emotional attachment to a girl too early on is a sure fire way to get friend-zoned.

Don’t get me wrong, It’s ok tell a girl you love her and miss her when you’re finally together, but NEVER in the early stages of dating.

That’s because women will run a mile if they sense you are more emotionally attached to them than they are to you.

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The way to show a girl how much you appreciate her – without revealing your emotions and scaring her away – is to instead show your sexual appreciation for her.

I miss you = Can’t stop thinking about how hot you looked in that black dress. What delightful number do you plan to wear on our next encounter?

I can’t stop thinking about you = Is it weird that a the back of a Renault Megan just made me think about how amazing your bum looked last night?

I want to see you again soon = So when am I going to reunited with your sexy ass? Friday is looking good

I like you = You impressed me last night to the point where I’d actually consider sharing needles with you in my crack den.

I love you = I think I could have fun in HELL with you

For more tips on texting a girl between dates check out this article I wrote that covers everything in full detail.

Make it official. When you’re dating a girl you really like, it’s easy to fall into the “let’s solidify things” trap and try to verbally make things official.

Here’s how it works:

You start to like a girl, so you want to spend more time with her. As your feelings grow for her, so too does your attachment to that future with her.

You really want to make her your girlfriend, so much so, in fact, that you start to get nervous and insecure around her. And you start to feel a little possessive.

And you start looking for ways to “lock down” the future. You try to get her to commit to plans… you subtly hint at the strength of your feelings for her… maybe you even come out and ask her how she feels about you.

I probably don’t need to tell you that NONE of this is attractive to a girl.

Yet it’s weird, because when you like a girl, it feels very natural to do this stuff.

So what’s the solution?

Well, it’s simple, but paradoxical.

When you’re with her, you focus on having as MUCH fun as you can while you’re together… and NOT trying to confirm anything or lock anything down.

Think about it: if you have tons of fun the first time you hang out with someone… wouldn’t you want to see them again?

And if it just kept going like that – where you had a great time every time you hung out – wouldn’t it be easy to end up in a relationship with them?

But if they were a nervous wreck the whole time, and tried to PUSH you into spending more time with them… the only way you’d do it would be out of guilt.

And sorry to say it, but guilt doesn’t get girlfriends.

So always remember to live in the moment and focus on smiling, and putting a smile on her face, when you’re together.

You can flirt with the idea of future meet-ups but don’t try to lock her down when you’re with her. Simply add the word “sometime” to keep it open ended.

“we should totally rent motorbikes and ride down to that secret beach sometime”.

After you’ve been on a few dates, becoming boyfriend and girlfriend should come naturally. Never force it.

Let your confidence grow naturally with experience. Before you go out and use this guide to get the girlfriend of your dreams, there is one more important thing I need to mention about how to naturally develop confidence.

It’s no secret that confidence is like crack cocaine to women.

That’s why I must urge you to take action and put everything you’ve just read into practice, because your confidence will develop naturally after you start:

– Assuming every girl is interested in you
– Standing up for yourself
– Taking risks
– …And flirting more with girls you’re attracted to

The Next Step (If you already have one special girl in mind)

Do you already have one special girl in mind?

And would you like to know how to start turning her into your girlfriend RIGHT NOW?

In the video on the Next Page you’ll learn how to turn her into your girlfriend.

All it takes is three simple steps…

Click the image below to go to the Next Page – Step Two – The Solution:

Wrapping it up

It was incredibly fun putting this “how to get a girlfriend” guide together. I hope you get a lot of value from it and use it to get the girlfriend of your dreams.

Rome wasn’t built in a day, so if you’re serious about getting a girlfriend you have to get your priorities right because your main concern should not be about how you desperately need a girlfriend.

You must commit yourself to something far, FAR more important than that:

Because as soon as you start putting yourself first and stop putting other people on a pedestal, stop letting people cross the line with you and stop giving a sh*t about what others think, the girls you desire will become naturally drawn to you.

You’ll start giving off the vibe that you don’t need women to make your life complete. You’ll take more risks, find approaching and talking to girls less daunting and won’t worry about the consequences.

You’ll begin to understand that getting a girlfriend is not the most important thing in the world, in fact it’s more like an added bonus to your already awesome life.

Women are drawn to people who believe in themselves. Who know what they want. Who live a life they are proud of and don’t let others dictate their actions and decisions.

None of this requires you to become an entirely different person.

All it requires is knowing who you are, what you want and going after it.

That’s how you get ahead in life and that’s how to get a girlfriend.

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Ben Wilmore says

Thanks for choosing to take part in the art of developing into a type of man who may specifically posess the ability to make anyone woman weak at the knees. Not only does finding a girl friend seem like an impossible task although you do break it down into steps for success. With the best intentions I must inform you that no girl likes me. It has been tested time and time again and with scientific evidence to boot I can say that it isn’t in the cards for me to find a dream girl much less any girl. I am the nicest guy I know. I’ve evolved into the kind of guy I wanted to be and I really like myself. Your good advice didn’t help and the personal stories at the end detailing how after a daunting 5 year search you found her at Starbucks felt like a knife in my back. They wouldn’t even humor me. Not even for a second. You must be something special then. You have qualities and skills that I just don’t have. You were born with them. It cannot be learned or explained. It’s damned if you do, damned if you don’t. So while I appreciate the time and effort you put into writing such a heartwarming, fairytale love story, I must say touché good sir. You win. I lose. Just another day at the park.

I’m motivated by this piece. I’ve also been spending soo much on girls and it looks like I’m desperately looking for a girlfriend. but with this post, my life is turning around this very minute.

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How I Got Myself A Girlfriend

A couple years ago I was not even able to ask directions from girls because of my intense fear, I would talk super fast in the most awkward way.

Those were hard times, and I lived like that for a long, long time.

I had zero social skills, I thought I had a permanent mental problem. I didn’t think that I would ever be capable of having real friends or real love. [ 1 ]

Everyone told me that I was crazy, I believed them. I never felt comfortable around people..

But whenever I would look in the mirror I couldn’t understand how I could believe such horrible things about myself… I was stuck in this unending pattern of self-destructive thoughts.

To make a story of many years short, I started to get my act together. I found myself a coach and began approaching girls.

Eventually, after a billion rejections and many years of work my life my life gradually transformed into a fantastic life, full of girls.

I want to tell you guys what took me out of that sad, depressing place to a popular, charismatic guy with tons of beautiful girls in my life.

But I want to warn you about something before we get started: stop dreaming for the one key that will give you super seductive qualities. It doesn’t exist.

Throughout your journey you will learn different keys that will give you breakthroughs. [2]

1. You Don’t Need To Be Hot To Get a Hot Girlfriend

Most guys that don’t have girl think it’s because they don’t look good enough. This is not true at all for 2 reasons:

First of all, girls don’t care about looks nearly as much as men. They are attracted to the feeling that our masculinity gives them.

If you have a masculine body; that attracts them, but traditional beauty doesn’t have such an effect on women.

Second of all, you aren’t that ugly.

We set up these ridiculous expectations for who we need to look like in order to be loved. I used to believe that I needed to be a feakin male model to get models.

Then of course from that screwed perspective I looked ugly. The truth I am average looking, and chances you are too.

Anytime I looked in the mirror I only saw the the worst.

Whatever you see in yourself, girls will see the same in you. That is why girls rejected me.

You do not need to be part of the lucky sperm club to get a woman. It’s OK to be who you are.

2. 30 Days To Unlimited Girls

If you take a good look at yourself you’ll see that you have a great personality that girls love, you just have fear sabotaging your goodness.

The issue isn’t with you, the issue is that you believe you are undeserving of love and full of fear.

Is there a way to knock 70% of that fear away and become the true MF you are within 30 days to get climbing the mountain again?

Yes, and it’s the practice of semen retention. Not releasing to PMO (porn, masturbation, and orgasm).

You have masculine, rough, aggressive, passionate sexual energy in you.

But every time you ejaculate you release that raw power.

You can decide to use that animalistic energy to destroy any fear you have with women! It only takes 30 days to feel the 80% of the benefits of semen retention.

You’ll feel this incredible need to improve yourself and from that masculine place you’ll be able to approach any girl you like.

Napoleon Hill in his famous book “Think And Grow Rich” has a chapter on semen retention.

In the r/NoFap community we say that you grow an extra set of balls, you take bigger risks.

Here’s a video of “Captain Sinbad” on YouTube describing his experience of NoFap for 70+ days. I recommend watching his videos, they are very encouraging for some.

Here are some quotes from Napoleon Hill author of Think And Grow Rich on sexual transmutation:

Whatever fear you experience around girls now, you will only experience a 1/10 of that after a month of semen retention.

3. Start Approaching Girls

Get the course that I recommend in step 5, and start talking to girls.

Listen you can’t go from being terrified of girls to landing a girl right away. You need to start by cold approaching girls on the street.

Most guys can’t just approach girls on the street, so start by asking for directions and tell the girl that she looks pretty.

Once you’ve done that a couple times, take it to the next level. Every time you get directions, introduce yourself to her and ask her for her name.

You don’t need to get her number, just make sure she knows your name and you think that she’s pretty by the time she goes.

This is a scary step up, but you can do it. Do this for a week or 2 until you are reasonably calm.

Now you can start by asking for directions, compliment her, ask her some questions AND go for the number close.

This can be very frightening, but do this for the same week or 2. Once you’re done with this (and you’ve got some dates) you are ready with the last step.

Follow the same steps that you would if you talk to a girl at a gym or a party and get her number. No more asking directions.

Now you are doing cold approaches. Many women will reject you, but that only makes you stronger.

This is where a course (mentioned below) comes into play. They can teach you exactly how to approach a girl, get their number and get them to bed.

Get laid with a bunch of women till you feel comfortable with women and you know what you like. Now you can start thinking about a relationship with a girl. [4, 5]

4. What Type of Girlfriend Do You Want?

You are now comfortable being with girls. You are OK being yourself.

You need to choose what type of girlfriend you want.

Some guys want a sexy, crazy, wild girl. A girl that likes other girls too!

Maybe you like the type of girl that you can take on adventures hiking all around and doing dangerous things.

That’s great, set that as your standard. It doesn’t matter how hot she is, if she doesn’t do what you love to do, drop her.

The effect of her beauty will eventually fade and then you’ll be left with a girl you don’t like. Honor your needs and get the girl that compliments you.

Or maybe you aren’t that way. Maybe you are an introvert and you want a girl that you can have some quiet time together.

You will find that you only attract girls that are like you in you in the first place. But you’ve got to conscience of what type of girl you like.

Lookout for the red flags. [6, 7]

5. Where To Meet Girls You Like

If you are looking for an introverted girlfriend, a quiet, cute girl, approach women in libraries or bookstores.

If you are looking for a party girl go to clubs and crazy parties. Just start dating away until you think you’ve found that girl you click with

If crazy, adventurous girls get you on, play intense sports with girls, meet girls on hiking adventures or at the gym.

Don’t go to the grocery store looking to buy a laptop. Fair enough?

6. How To Develop The Relationship

The difference between a hookup and having a loving relationship is huge.

One night stands are nice, but you won’t have that deep fulfilling feeling that a relationship gives you. This part scares men.

It can be terrifying to be more than friends and to allow yourself to be vulnerable with your girl. To open your heart to love completely, without defending yourself.

That is not easy. And it’s a journey. A journey to love.

You’ve done self healing and you’re not giving love from a place of neediness, you can flood her with the one thing you can never run out of: LOVE.

Love is the one unlimited resource that we all have. Why not give her and the world your infinite goodness?

This is the journey: you open your heart to love and never stop giving. This is exactly the process of making her your girlfriend.

Focus on giving her the feeling that she belongs, she is loved. Don’t even worry about getting love back, make it all about her and she will make it all about you.

Once you come from this place, you are well on your way to making her your girlfriend. It is just a matter of days until she officially asks you to be her girlfriend.

7. What is The Best Book To Get a Girlfriend

The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene is by far the best book for anyone aspiring to seduce, attract girls.

I actually own the audio-book and the paperback version of the book simply because by taking in the information in different ways I am reprogramming my subconscious mind.

This was really big for me, especially at the beginning, when I got rejected 5 times, the book taught me to stop taking it personally and getting all emotional about it.

I learned that there are ways to act that will get me sexy girls and there are ways to fail BIG.

I was acting the wrong way, I kept on doing the same pattern over and over again.

But the book taught me that what I was doing was causing me ENORMOUS PAIN and if I acted in these new mindsets and followed some simple rules I could have any girl I wanted.

Easier said than done, BUT this DEEP 468 page book, which will teach you which character and what process to follow will make everything a hell of a lot easier.

This book will not :

I recommend you could do what I did and get both the audio-book and the paperback and just let the words seduce you!

8. What Is The Best Course To Get a Girlfriend?

The 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp tells you everything you need to learn. The Rise of The Phoenix just gives you the core principles

He teaches the exact methodology to remove all guilt, shame, fake confidence, and build solid mindsets and confidence.

If you can follow the steps in this course for 14 days, your eyes will open and you will be like “why was I ever so full of fear?”

The course is also full of timeless principles. You’ll refer back to this program in a year from now to improve your night game.

The course includes:

Everyday, for 14 intense days you will listen to a lecture detailing everything you need to know, then you will listen to the exercises that you need to do that day. And before you fall asleep you’ll listen to a mind altering trance that will reprogram your mind for success with women.

It costs less than 5 dollars per hour of transformative content.

OH’ and by the way, this all comes with a 60 day no questions asked return policy!

A much needed day to day What’sApp coach

Important: The 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp and the What’sApp coaching is only available to those who invest in The Rise of The Phoenix.

Once you invest in The Rise of The Phoenix you will have the option to get the 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp and the What’sApp coaching.

The What’sApp coaching is by Sebastian Harris, the creator of The Rise of The Phoenix and the 14 Day Seduction Bootcamp. He will be coaching you every single day and answering any questions you have.

Every day he would give a challenge. At the very beginning Sebastian only made me do very basic, but terrifying things like tell a girl she is pretty and then walk away.

But gradually he made me do some small talk with girls and over a couple months a got some numbers and some dates. Dating was sooo scary, but he didn’t let me chicken out.

After 5-6 months I was basically fear-free. That doesn’t mean I had zero fear, it means that I had the relationships that I wanted with the hottest girls and I could live a healthy, sexy social life.

Approaching girls has become a game for me. I see how deeply I can seduce and flirt with her.

Becoming a man that can get a girlfriend is hard, Sebastian once sent me a message: “[it’s] Hard but in the end it will be all worth it.”

I remember being in a mall not having the guts to approach a girl, so I just walked around each floor twice till I forced myself to talk to a girl and it was terrible, she just said no and walked away.

Summary

One of greatest things in life is the relationships that we build. Nothing is more precious or valuable than having a deep relationship with a girl.

This requires a lot of fears to be healed and for your heart to open, but once you’ve done the hard work there is nothing better than that.

There are a lot of articles that like to complicate the process. But if you see that you are deserving of love everything becomes very clear.

All you need to do is go to places where the girls like you hang out, get some dates, pick the special girl and build the relationship.

This is not a complex process and if I’ve done it, I swear you can do it too.

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If you want to convince people that you have a boyfriend or girlfriend when you actually don’t, the key is to come up with a good backstory for your imaginary partner. Make up a backstory for your partner that includes details about their childhood, their hobbies, and where they work so you can easily answer questions people have about them. People will also want to know when they can meet your partner. Be ready with an excuse whenever somebody asks where your boyfriend or girlfriend is. Maybe they have a demanding job with weird hours or they live in the next town over. Stick to your stories so you don’t give people different answers and you can fool pretty much everybody. For tips about how to give your made-up partner an online presence, keep reading!

How to get a girlfriend. Tips for success

The entire functioning of mankind is based on the relationship between the sexes, strongly embedded in its history and culture. Romeo and Juliet sacrificed their lives on the altar of love. Mr. Rochester and Jane Eyre ended up together even after hardships and lies. Lancelot and Guinevere’s love changed the fate of an entire continent. There are many more stories which inspired a lot of novels and films. Do you want to experience the same emotions that will rock your whole world, or just to lose your virginity? In this article we’ll encourage you to do things that will hep you to easily get a girlfriend.

Many people say that you don’t need to bother: “ just be yourself, and everything will turn out” they say. Maybe. But did you ever like a girl who did not care about you? Our task is to expand your “target audience” and increase the chances of finding not only your girlfriend, but a soul mate. The rolling stone gathers no moss.

The first thing you need to ask yourself is not «how to get a girl», but «how to get a girl to like you.»

It’s great that you like to spend time drinking beer, playing DOTA2 and hanging out with your friends. But it gets you more that a beer belly, and stories about you dominating the center to be successful with girls. A lot of stories starting with “We got wasred with my mate Danny …” is also a controversial aphrodisiac. it happens though, that people start dating by only drinking together. But more on that later.

In any case, the first thing that the lady sees is your looks. You don’t have to be Apollo, because girls are not basically fixated on looks. You just have to groom yourself, and you’ll find no difficulty in finding a girlfriend

1. Wash regularly.

It is desirable to do so before others ask you about it. If, of course, your goal is not an odorous lady from the railway station. A Very important point is to avoid sebaceous hair by any means, if you want to find a girl. Many complain specifically about greasy hair on quite good-looking guys.

2. Cut your hair.

With a neat haircut, you will have much more chances to be liked by girls than with a shapeless heap of hair on your head. Long, well-groomed hair is appreciated no less. There are girls who are ready to forgive the guy anything for his long hair. They even come together in communities that are easy to find.

3. Be in good physical shape.

The ability to click a mouse for 6 hours without stopping is not an indicator of a good shape. It’s much easier to get some muscles than it seems, and it will significantly expand your target audience. The ideal option is an active sport as a hobby: girls really like athletic guys. If time is short, then only 40 minutes of the active excercise twice a week will keep you fit.

4. Update the wardrobe.

• You can start with a small step – take all your torn socks to the trash. Or at least let the granny sew it up.

• The next step is underwear. Destroy your underpants with the corresponding color marks in the front and behind – it`s a shame. Order yourself a fashionable set of your size, and trust us, soon it will be appreciated by the girls.

• Clothes next. Go to a mall with a female friendl. She’ll help you to pick a thing that will hide your weaknesses and flatter your physical strengths. Buy rather a couple of high-quality things than a heap of clothes that don’t fit. Discover a new type of clothes: t-shirts with a triangular neckline, vests, sweat shirts, hoodies, jackets, polo shirts, anything – experiment.

5. Buy a nice cologne.

Usually it can be picked in the same store where you updated your wardrobe with your friend. Smells have a huge impact on Homo sapiens, including girls. It’s the final touch of your flawless image.

Personal qualities.

However, visual attraction is hardly half of the success. After the girl liked you, you’ll have to interact and talk with her about something. It’s time to connect with the whole range of your personal qualities.

It may take time to develop them. But this is the key to communicating with girls, which determines how successful you are. You need to develop these qualities in yourself to meet the love of your life, and generally improve the quality of life. Of course, only the soap opera characters have all of them at once, but the more you have, the better.

1. Confidence.

Girls like self-confident guys, it’s no secret. Show her that you have it, or you risk staying in the friendzone. But don’t confuse it with being too cheeky, otherwise you’ll get the red card. Just be confident, look at her without shyness, and everything will turn out.

2. Responsibility.

Make her understand that infantile carelessness is not about you, that you are already an adult person (even if you are only 15) and that you can take responsibility for your actions, yourself and your loved ones. Every girl dreams of being with such a man.

3. Purposefulness.

4. Manners.

When you open the door for her or give her your hand, helping to get off the bus, she is already imagining you in her bedroom. Be a gentleman, and she’ll understand that you know how to treat girls.

5. Social approval.

This is what others say about you. If you have mutual friends, who unanimously repeat: “He’s a great guy, and has a lot in common with you,” she has no chance to resist. And if you are approved by her best friend, then consider that the bob’s in your uncle (if you don’t lose it all by yourself). Also, if she sees that you’re in demand among other girls, she’ll be more interested in you.

6. Kindness.

Usually it is enough to show that you’re kind to the girl. She’ll believe she’s really special if you hate the whole world except her. But it is also desirable to be kind to her cat and her mother.

7. The mind.

8. Sense of humor.

If you have it, you will be much more interesting, more fun, and that means the girls will like spending time with you. In addition, with a sense of humor it is much easier to find friends, to overcome life’s trials, and generally to live. You can develop it – love yourself, don’t be afraid to be funny and joke about yourself, watch comedy shows, and in time you will develop a great sense of humor. However it’s important to know where to stop, so don’t overdo it, and don’t joke about her dead dog, and so on. However, you should not make those qualities obtrusive. Show them naturally, as it goes. Boasting is not in your interests. Modesty on top of each of these qualities makes them twice as valuable.

Get a job.

Now you’re ready to find a girlfriend!

If you followed our advice, then at this stage you are ready to get the girl of your dreams, if she has not found you yet. After all, working on yourself gives a real result – girls begin to pay attention to you. Below we will tell you the most effective ways how and where to find a girlfriend.

Call for your friends and classmates.

Take advantage of online dating.

How to find a girl without getting up off the couch? Of course, with the help of dating websites. True, you still have to go out with her. Is it difficult to find a girl because you don’t have much free time? Internet-Dating is the most efficient way. You’ll have to spend time only to fill out the questionnaire and do the photoshoot. On sites it is easy to find a single woman of any age by a number of parameters. Also it’s easy to find a girl to make a family with in the future: you can immediately pick up a marriage website, see the relationship goals of the ladies, and find a settled girl who wants a husband.

There are, of course, disadvantages, for example, you can be fooled by a photoshoped photo, the girl you choose may have a terrible voice, smell bad, or something else that you could not notice online. We have already told a lot about Internet dating in our articles: Filling in the questionnaire and your first message. If you decide to try to get acquainted on the Internet, that’s what you need.

Get acquainted wherever you are.

Be open to what happens around you, look out to the world and act according to the situation. After all, girls are almost everywhere, wherever you go. Let’s consider several situations:

• If the girl looks lost, looks at the signs in the subway, or can’t figure out her way around the neighborhood, come up and ask if she’s all right. At least talk, at best you have the chance to find a new girl.

• A girl with a huge bag or even a larger staircase. Offer her a hand, also you can ask her about her vacation in the Maldives. She will probably say she had stayed elsewhere, so you will get a topic to begin with.)

• At parties, in a nightclub or at a holiday, it’s easier to get acquainted – everyone is relaxing, ready for social contacts. Approach her, introduce yourself, ask if she often comes here, is she knows the organizer and what the place is like in general, try to start a dialogue. At the same time you can tell her about yourself if you notice her interest in you.

How to Choose the Right Girlfriend

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Choosing to start a relationship with the girl you’ve got your heart set on is a big decision, but also one that opens the door to many exciting possibilities. Because of the emotional investment involved with any serious relationship, it goes without saying that you’ll want to choose your girlfriend carefully. Luckily, with a little help from wikiHow, you’ll be able to find a winner in no time! See Step 1 below to get started.