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How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself And Get Back Up

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Everyone reading this has felt self-pity at some point in their lives. As it is with life, not everything will go according to your plans. You tend to make mistakes and fail. Then, how does this make you feel? You feel crushed, defeated, and slowly, you start feeling sorry for yourself. Through absolutely no fault of ours, things just simply don’t go as well as you hoped it would.

“Self-pity is easily the most destructive of the non-pharmaceutical narcotics; it is addictive, gives momentary pleasure, and separates the victim from reality.” ― John Gardner

This is all normal. It does feel terrible when you’re stuck in this state for far too long.

However, the situation becomes dangerous when you feel sorry for yourself so much that it becomes a part of you. The first stage of getting better is recognizing that you are addicted to feeling this way.

This guide aims to help you get back up by giving you all the tips you may need to fight such an overwhelming feeling.

Feeling Sorry for Yourself: Knowing When to Stop

“It’s all right to sit on your pity pot every now and again. Just be sure to flush when you are finished, Mrs. Miracle.” ― Debbie Macomber

Is it wrong to feel sorry for yourself?

The answer is no. It’s okay to feel sorry for yourself because it’s a natural human emotion. It becomes wrong when it starts to consume you too much, to the extent that you are throwing big pity parties now and again. After all, when you experience it, there is a lot of exaggeration involved.

You amplify your misfortune more than it actually is. A deep sense of helplessness and hopelessness engulfs the fabric of your being. The feeling may also be accompanied by the belief that no one understands you, that you are not appreciated despite how much you work hard for yourself and the people you love.

You may even start thinking that you will never get anything useful out of your life anymore. This self-destructive way of thinking can push you to go out into the world in search of attention and pity. However, not many people would notice it as they are also consumed by their own thoughts, feelings, and problems.

People are out there, dealing with their baggage of issues as well, and that’s just the reality. You have to work on getting out of the black hole yourself. Feeling entitled or victimized — as if things are much better for everyone else except you — will get you nowhere.

Better yet, turn your emotions into something positive. Use it to produce radiant energy that works for you in more ways than one. The pity party will continue to be unsatisfying, leaving a void that you can probably never fill. But it can also be the start of some much-needed introspection.

You can convert your self-pity into zealousness to grow and challenge yourself instead of wasting valuable time by being unproductive.

7 Steps to Help You Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself

“Feeling sorry for yourself, and your present condition is not only a waste of energy but the worst habit you could possibly have,” — Dale Carnegie

Feeling sorry for yourself has massive secondary gain. When you’re engrossed with self-pity, you feel a bit of dopamine rush as you feel good at the moment. You feel free to complain and moan and sigh as loud as you want.

Nevertheless, it only lasts for a short while. You will realize that it is never enough, and that’s when you begin to get addicted to the feeling.

Here are a few tips on how to express your emotion through the right channels.

1. Concentrate on Your Breathing

When you feel the ugly thoughts of self-pity creeping in, try to calm your mind and body. This way, you can think clearly and become more level-headed.

How can you do this easily? Sit down and close your eyes. Then, breathe deeply through your nose, hold it in for a few seconds. and let it out slowly.

Don’t let any other thought come in at this point. Focus only on the air that goes in and out of your lungs. To avoid finishing the exercise too late or too early, you can set a two-minute timer on your smartphone.

Taking deep breaths may seem insignificant, but it is instrumental in relaxing the mind. Deep breaths enhance our ability to memorize, concentrate, and focus. That burst of oxygen going to your brain will help you achieve the clarity you need at that point in time. So, instead of letting doubts take over your entire being, spending less than five minutes to breathe deeply will bring a sense of calmness in your system.

2. Tap Into the Feeling of Gratitude

The truth is, no matter how bad the situation is, someone is having a more terrible time somewhere. Yeah, it sucks to picture someone else’s misfortune, but when you’re about to be overrun with self-pity, ask yourself an important question first. Is there someone out there who has it worse than me?

By doing so, you are giving yourself the liberty to see things from a broader perspective. You’re not just focusing on your terrible situation and thinking about yourself alone anymore. Now, follow up this question with three things you are grateful for. There are some things that you probably take for granted in your daily life, but they are crucial to your existence.

They don’t have to be something so grand. You may feel grateful for having a roof over your head, for instance. Millions of people don’t even have that bare minimum. You may also be happy about having three square meals and clean water every day. Thinking of such things is enough to stop feeling sorry for yourself.

3. Embrace Optimism

How about looking at your situation as one more lesson in life? It helps to be more constructive about your predicament. For example, if you’re feeling sorry for yourself because you just lost a promotion spot for the third time, look for the optimistic side of this. Ask the relevant questions: Why does my dream position keep slipping away? How can I get it right?

Yes, you are allowed to feel upset for losing something so important to your career, but think about how fulfilling it would be to finally get it. Picture yourself in that new post and how you can feel more proud of it when you succeed against all the odds.

A dash of optimism is perhaps all you need to discover the hidden errors denying you of something you want badly and give you the strength to try again. [1] Look at those moments of failure as an opportunity to learn a game-changing lesson rather than as a door into self-pity land.

4. Embrace the Emotion

Remember that it’s perfectly normal to feel sorry for yourself. You are human, and it’s all part of our psyche. So, don’t waste your energy in fighting it. Be okay with that moment of weakness in which you see everything through a negative lens.

However, set a deadline. Giving yourself a short time to embrace the emotion allows you to thoroughly process what has happened. This situation may have caused shock, a flurry of thoughts, or intense emotion, but take it all in now. We are all familiar with some cases wherein we have tried to push away feelings to make ourselves believe that we have the strength to carry on as if nothing happened. How did that turn out? Most times, it never ended well.

Pushing emotions aside can make them pop up at unexpected times when you’re not ready to deal with them. It’s quite common to see people conceal their emotions because they don’t want to appear weak. Still, denying your experiences will not erase them.

You become a warrior by facing those painful experiences and moving on bravely. Feel free to cry a river, but when you’re done, build a bridge over it. Even if it is only ten minutes, savor that moment and then dust yourself up as you focus towards moving forward again.

5. Lend Someone a Helping Hand

One keyword in self-pity is “self.” When you feel it, you are focusing on a single person: you. Have you ever thought of directing all that attention to someone else? Focus on adding value to another individual. Whether it is a close friend or a random stranger, it doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you have that moment of respite to proffer solution to someone else’s problem or just lend a listening ear. It will get you out of your head, and you have the extra perk of feeling good when you genuinely help others. It’s certainly amazing to see someone’s face light up and know that it’s because of you.

So, this action doesn’t have to be grand. You can help out by assisting someone with moving or giving valuable advice for a crucial decision. Alternatively, you can simply listen while they vent. Kindness works wonders, and it may help you stop feeling sorry for yourself.

6. Take A Social Media Hiatus

We’re all familiar with the pressures that come with social media. On these platforms, everyone is focused on giving the illusion of a perfect life. The happy faces, countless vacation pictures, and flawless family photos could be a significant contributor to your self-pitying habits.

A lot of people start feeling sorry for themselves when they believe that everyone else around them is doing so much better than them. At this point, taking a break from social media is beneficial. You see only what people want you to see, and you don’t need someone’s fake life belittling what you have achieved on your own.

A social media hiatus allows you to dedicate some time to yourself. [2] Engage in other activities to make up for it instead. You can try watching movies, reading a few books, hanging out more with your loved ones, or taking up an exciting hobby. It’s all up to you.

7. Set Realistic Daily Goals

Your attitude makes a whole world of difference. When you feel like you don’t have enough power to change a situation due to your terrible mental state, try to break it down. A task looks insurmountable until you break it into bite-sized chunks. It’s the same with your personal goals. [3]

Take some “me” time and reflect on what you want to change about yourself. Think about how you can improve your situation. Why are you feeling sorry for yourself anyway? Say, it may be because you believe that everyone at your office hates you.

Then, sit down and get your pen. Why do you believe that they don’t like you? What flaws do you have that are possibly contributing to this? It shouldn’t take more than a few minutes to brainstorm the little steps you can take to change this, especially if you plan one change per day.

The change can be as simple as smiling more, using daily words of encouragement, and being more proactive in your decision-making process. No matter how little it seems, it will make a massive difference in the long run. One day, you’ll wake up thinking that you have become a completely different person.

Nonetheless, it is a never-ending process that only looks easy because you have broken it down. With this, you will feel empowered and confident enough to see your life in a better light.

Final Thoughts

Stopping yourself from self-pitying is not an impossible task. Get started with the simple techniques above and overcome negativity successfully. All it takes is that determination and the right amount of energy to make this work. You can do this.

How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself: 10 Steps That Work

When you fail, make a mistake or things simply don’t go as well as you had hoped then how do you feel?

Do you feel sorry for yourself? Well, that’s natural in some situations and to an extent.

But do you get stuck in that mental state too often and for far too long?

If that’s the case then this guide is for you.

Because in it I’d like to share 10 steps that have helped me to stop feeling sorry for myself.

Simple habits and techniques that have helped me to reduce and overcome this issue in my life and to stop spending so much time and energy on it.

Now, let’s get started.

1. Breathe.

First, calm your mind and body down a bit to think more level-headedly and clearly.

This simplest way to do that?

Just sit down. Close your eyes.

And then breathe through your nose and with your belly.

Focus only on the air going in and out. Nothing else.

Do that for 1-2 minutes (I like to set a timer on my smart phone so I don’t try to finish early).

This will center you and make you feel more focused again.

2. Zoom out into the world (and then tap into gratitude).

Ask yourself: does anyone on this planet have it worse than me right now?

This question helps me to see things from a wider perspective.

I often follow it up with asking myself:

What are 3 things I can be grateful for but often take for granted?

Just these first two steps is often enough for me stop feeling sorry for myself and not get stuck in self-pity.

If not, then I move on to…

3. Zoom out in your own life.

Ask yourself this about the situation that has caused you to feel sorry for yourself:

Will this matter in 5 years? Or even 5 weeks from now?

The answer is most usually for me that it actually won’t.

But I’m sometimes a bit hasty to make a mountain out of a molehill.

4. Find one opportunity or lesson in the situation you’re in.

This can help you to see what happened to you in more optimistic and constructive light.

That doesn’t mean that it’s all of a sudden a great situation that you’ve found yourself in.

But it’s in my experience important to do not only to add a dash of optimism.

But also because the toughest situations that I’ve felt the worst about have helped me in the long run.

They have taught me one or several very important lessons that have been game-changers or at least been quite valuable things to keep in mind.

5. Set a time-limit for yourself.

One thing I do from time to time when I’m in a negative emotional state like feeling sorry for myself or seeing things through a negative lens is to be OK with that.

But with a deadline and for just a little while.

Because we have to process what has happened. Take in all the emotions, thoughts or shock that a situation caused.

Pushing that aside right away can lead to those thoughts and feelings popping up later in unexpected situations and ways.

So take for example 10 minutes to just feel sorry for yourself. But then, as those minutes are up, move on into a more constructive headspace and focus forward once again.

6. Get out of your own head by helping someone else out.

To avoid getting stuck in a downward spiral of self-pity focus outward. On someone else. Focus on giving one or more people in your life value.

This will get you outside of your own head and you’ll feel good for helping out in some way.

And then feel even better as you see the other person’s face light up thanks to what you did.

A couple of good ways to give value and to help out are:

Helping out practically.

Maybe someone needs help moving. Or setting up things for his party this weekend. Or with finding information for a decision that he’s making.

Listening.

Just be there fully and listen to someone as she vents about a situation in her life.

And if she asks then offer some advice or a discussion about what can be done to improve upon the situation she is in.

Be kind to someone in your everyday life.

Be kind to a stranger by holding up the door, letting him or her into your lane while driving or helping out with directions if he seems lost in your city.

7. Look into your possible future.

Ask yourself: what will the consequences be if I keep this up?

How will my life look in 1 year if I too often fall back into feeling sorry for myself for too long? And in 5 years?

How will it affect my relationships?

How will affect my chances of reaching my goals and dreams?

Write down your answers and use them as a motivation to move forward once again the next time you feel that you’re starting to get lost in those negative thoughts.

8. Create a reminder and keep it close by.

I used one that said “no victim thinking for 30 days” on my smart phone. It popped up every morning with the help of the free Google Keep app.

Another good way to use a reminder is to write your message to yourself down on a piece of paper and put it in your bedside table. Then it’ll be one of the first things you see each day.

A couple of suggestions for what to write could be:

9. Draw up a small plan (and take just one step to move forward with it).

One of the best ways to move on from a mental state where you don’t feel like you have much personal power to change your situation is to take one small step.

And to create a small plan – or the start of one – for how you can improve or move away from the situation that have made you feel sorry for yourself.

So just sit down with a pen and a piece of paper. And brainstorm for 3-5 minutes to find one or a few small steps forward.

Then get the ball rolling right away.

Take just one of those small or tiny steps forward to put your plan into action. This will make you, in my experience, feel empowered and better about yourself and your life.

10. Ask yourself: how can I prevent getting stuck in the same trap in the future?

Finally, after you feel more empowered and constructive and have gotten the ball rolling with your plan take a couple of minutes and ask yourself the question above.

Think about what you can do differently the next time something goes wrong or when you start feeling sorry for yourself for too long.

A couple of the things that have helped me the most with this are:

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How To Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself

If you continue to feel sorry for yourself, your life will continue to suck.

But you know what? A good portion of people reading this will ignore what I just wrote and continue to feel sorry for themselves. They’ll tell themselves that they’re different, that they have it worse than everyone else, and that no one understands what they’re going through.

The truth is that people feel sorry for themselves because it feels good to feel sorry for yourself. Self pity is comforting, because it allows us to blame external forces for our misfortunes. It justifies not taking action when taking action would be difficult, stressful, and where it could lead to failure.

Sure, Bad Things Happen

Obviously not everything that happens to us is within our control. Accidents happen, people die, illness can strike, and fate can be cruel. But no matter what happens, you and you alone get to play the cards you’re dealt. You get to choose how you react when you lose your job, when you relapse and end up in rehab again, when your significant other cheats on you with your best friend.

Stop Focusing On What Other People Have

The more you focus on what other people have and what you don’t, the more you’re going to feel sorry for yourself. The more you feel sorry for yourself, the less you’re going to move forward in your life. Despite what you might tell yourself, I can guarantee that not everyone who has it better than you, started out with less than you.

Somewhere in this world, someone was dealt a crappier hand than you were, and still managed to turn it around. Click Here To Tweet This Quote

There are also people in this world who were born with a silver spoon. They’ve had everything handed to them without having to work for it. They might even be arrogant about it, even though they did nothing to deserve their good fortune.

You know what? Be happy for them. Why not? How does their good fortune affect your life in anyway? You only get to play the hand you’re dealt, and the more energy you spend obsessing over someone else’s lot in life, the less energy you’ll have to work towards improving your own.

How Can I Move Beyond Self Pity?

Ok, that’s enough tough love. If you’ve read this far, you are probably ready to let go of your self-pity, but you don’t know how to do it.

As I mentioned earlier, one of the reasons its so hard to get rid of self pity is because its such a comforting emotion. It doesn’t take any effort to feel sorry for yourself, but it takes tremendous effort to overcome life’s challenges and become a better person for it.

To make things worse, once self pity sets in, it becomes an ingrained pattern in our mind that’s hard to get rid of. We get trained to think negatively, to start the pity party when things don’t go well for us. So what can you do the next time you start feeling sorry for yourself?

1. Implement a Zero tolerance policy

Start by telling yourself that you are no longer going to feel sorry for yourself. Right now, stop reading and take a moment to make this commitment to yourself.

It’s not going to be easy; you have ingrained patterns in your brain that encourage self-pity. But the next two steps should help you slowly but surely create new patterns.

2. Build Self Esteem

Self-esteem can be a wonderful tool for fighting off self-pity. When you feel strong and confident in yourself, you have little need to feel sorry for yourself. Of course, building self-esteem is not an easy thing to do, especially if you’re used to self-loathing and pity.

Building true self-esteem is a process that you work on bit by bit, day by day. Here are some things you can do to improve your sense of self-worth:

Don’t expect overnight changes, because they won’t happen. But if you keep striving for a tiny bit of personal improvement each day, one day you’ll look back at your old self and marvel at how much you’ve changed.

3. Be grateful for what you have

Is the glass half full or half empty? Even if the glass is only 1/100 full, the way we choose to perceive it is the thing that counts.

No matter how little you have, there’s no doubt you have things to be grateful for. The fact that you’re on the internet right now, connected to the world’s information superhighway and reading the thoughts of another human being thousands of miles away is a miracle in itself.

Choosing to be grateful for what you have is a direct attack on self pity. You can’t be grateful and feel sorry for yourself at the same time. Of course, if you’re used to choosing self-pity, it might be difficult to get into a grateful mindset.

To retrain your negative thought patterns, I want you to try this exercise. Every single day for the next month, write down 5 things you’re grateful for every morning. Do it without fail.

It can be as simple as being thankful for the fresh morning air, that first sip of hot coffee in the morning, the smell of fresh bacon in the frying pan, or even the fact that you’re alive. You can repeat the same 5 things everyday if you want, as long as you take the time to come up with 5 reasons to be grateful and write them down.

Self-pity is a habit and a choice. Take actions to unlearn this negative habit, and choose to bring some positivity into your life.

Why You Are Feeling Sorry for Yourself and How to Stop

You’ve probably moped around feeling sorry for yourself before. There are ways to stop this and cultivate a more positive attitude.

Yes, I am familiar with self-pity, and I bet you are too. But feeling sorry for yourself doesn’t get you far in life. It robs you of the time you can use to be productive and change things. No, the world isn’t fair, and bad things happen sometimes, but mulling around in self-negativity doesn’t help.

‘Why am I feeling sorry for myself?’ The causes of self-pity

First of all, you need to find why you feel sorry for yourself. Without getting to the root of your feelings, it’s impossible to overcome them. Here are a few possible explanations:

1. Failure

The most obvious reason for self-pity is feeling like a failure. For example, you could be facing obstacles in your career that are blocking the way to reaching your life goals. Maybe your relationship or marriage has failed and you don’t know what to do.

There could be numerous reasons why you might be feeling like a failure. When hardships happen, it’s not easy to get up and work towards the solution. Most people lose their motivation and give up too easily, which leaves them feeling sorry for themselves.

2. Self-esteem issues

Self-pity often stems from low self-esteem and a distorted sense of self. You could have self-esteem issues coming from a troubled childhood or parenting mistakes that make you diminish your own worth. For example, imposter syndrome makes people underestimate their achievements and feel like a fake.

Are you too hard on yourself? Is your inner critic constantly telling you that you are not good enough? Negative self-talk and being an overly critical person can be the reasons why you are feeling sorry for yourself. And most importantly, all these negative thoughts about yourself sabotage your growth and progress in life.

3. Mental illness

Mental disorders like anxiety and depression tell you many lies about yourself. These mental states often leave you feeling worthless and ruminating about your past mistakes and failures.

You can suddenly find yourself believing that you are a terrible spouse, parent or professional. And you beat yourself up for that, overthinking a problem that most likely exists only in your mind.

Similarly, you may start dwelling on a situation that happened long ago but still makes you feel bad about yourself. You may believe that you did a terrible mistake or an unethical choice. Or you could simply be ashamed of your past self and your behaviors back then.

Anxiety and depression can act as confidence killers and distort your perception of yourself. They often make you feel bad about and sorry for yourself.

4. Comparing yourself to others and feeling inadequate

When you have the toxic habit of comparing yourself to others, you are most likely to focus on the negative. You tend to notice people who are more successful, attractive or capable than you. “He has his own law company already and I’m still working here as an office assistant” or “She married in her twenties and I’m still single”.

Of course, as a result of such thoughts, you end up feeling inadequate and totally incapable. It may feel like everyone else is succeeding in life while you stay behind. This leads to resentment and self-pity. Thus, you start feeling sorry for yourself and it may seem like your whole life is a joke.

5. Trauma or abuse

Trauma and abuse survivors often come out of these toxic situations burdened with self-esteem and mental health issues. A narcissist or any other skillful type of manipulator can easily make you feel bad about yourself without adequate reason.

Abusers use sneaky tools of manipulation such as gaslighting that can leave anyone questioning their worth and sanity. Even if you have survived abuse or any other kind of trauma, such an experience leaves lifetime marks on your soul.

Moreover, many victims blame themselves for what happened to them. Do you believe that you are responsible for your traumatic experience? Maybe this is what explains why you are feeling sorry for yourself.

6. Victim mentality

Have you ever thought about the possibility that you might be feeling sorry for yourself because you secretly want to? Some people enjoy being miserable without being aware of it. They always want to be the victim to evoke empathy in other people and thus receive their support and care.

Could you be suffering from a victim mentality without even knowing it? If you tend to blame other people and external circumstances for all your failures, it’s time to think that you might be simply avoiding responsibilities. Do you approach every conflict in a passive-aggressive way and never even try to understand the other party? Are you always trying to find an excuse to deny your mistakes?

If you do these things, it may mean that you have this toxic mindset.

7. Self-Absorption

Being self-absorbed doesn’t always equal being narcissistic or selfish. Well, it is being egocentric in a way since you stay overly focused on yourself. But at the same time, self-absorption usually involves being negative towards yourself.

In fact, studies show that it is the root of many mental illnesses. And of course, self-absorption can be responsible for a whole plethora of negative emotions and ideas about yourself, including self-pity.

Also, if you are constantly occupied with analyzing your thoughts and behaviors, you forget about other people and their feelings. For this reason, a good way to fight self-absorption is to practice empathy.

How to stop feeling sorry for yourself?

Quick, take your mental temperature. Are you wallowing in self-pity? There are ways to tell if you are. If you’ve lost all passion for the things you love or talk constantly about your misfortune, you might be feeling sorry for your life and yourself. Would you like to know how to stop doing this? I thought you would.

1. Accept the pity

I know this might sound counteractive, but just listen. It is okay to feel sorry for yourself for a little while. I know I might be going a little against the title in this post, but you will understand if you read on. What’s most concerning, is staying in self-pity for too long.

So, allow yourself to feel those negative feelings, every single emotion, but then agree to let them go after a certain period of time. Just don’t hold onto negativity for too long. Letting self-pity go will help you eventually feel less and less sorry for yourself in time.

2. Help someone

Helping other people always gets us out of our own head and into the concerns of friends, family, and even some strangers. The more you get out of your head, the better the perspective on what’s happening in your life that hurts. Of course, you should tackle your problems after helping someone else. Keep those things separated.

For example: Help someone move, listen to someone else’s problems or offer to babysit. Trust me, all these things will make you stop thinking negatively about yourself so much. You will see what other people are going through. Plus, it’s just right to help others anyway.

3. Change your focus

No matter what’s happened in your life to make you feel sorry for yourself, there are many things good about you. There are things that people see in you that you may not even see in yourself. However, if you focus on things that don’t revolve around self-pity, you may be able to grow a more positive outlook.

Try focusing on what you have instead of what you don’t have. So, you might not own a house, but you rent a decent one that keeps you safe and warm. You might not have a new car, but the one you have gets you where you need to go. Change how you see things, and self-pity will fade.

4. Stop giving up, and start breaking boundaries

When I say boundaries, I don’t mean the positive ones you’ve set for you and your life. I’m talking about the limitations that people place on you in society.

If you’re trying to become a doctor, and people keep telling you that you’re not cut out for it, do you back down and accept what they say? Of course, you don’t because this makes you start feeling sorry for yourself. So, if you want to be a doctor, start climbing on the bumps of criticism that everyone keeps throwing in front of you. When you refuse to give up, pity cannot survive.

5. Stay away from the 3 P’s

There are three thought processes that keep us locked in feeling pity. These mindsets are personalization, pervasiveness, and permanence.

With personalization, we tend to think that our situation is our fault alone. We blame ourselves and dwell on what we could have done differently. With pervasiveness, we assume that a traumatic event will affect all areas of our lives, and this is not true. And permanence makes us think that bad things will last forever.

These three lies must be thrown out in order to stop feeling sorry about our situations.

6. Think about your future

Yes, it’s great to live in the present, I encourage that. The thing is, you need to take a quick look at how your future could be if you continue to feel sorry for yourself. You see, self-pity is stressful, and it can take years off your life.

So, ask yourself if what you’re feeling bad about will matter in the next 5 years. If you don’t think it will, then start to let it go before it makes you sick. Remember, mental and physical health are connected and influence each other both ways. Keep your future in sight, just a bit of it, and maybe this will help you retain hope instead of pity.

So, let’s stop feeling sorry for us

When I say us, it means I sometimes suffer from the trap of self-pity myself. So, you’re not alone. It’s not all that difficult to do, especially when your life has been a series of letdowns and traumatic events. But you see, you cannot let those things define you, and when you feel sorry for yourself, that’s what happens.

I hope this helped you do a bit of positive thinking, and most of all, I hope it gave you the strength to stand in the face of adversity. I’m working on it myself, and so we’re doing it together.

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It’s time for a change

There’s no future in our past

What s done is done

you just knew it wouldn t last

So get up and move

The whole world is at your feet

Go looking for love, there’s so much more than eyes can see

Enough is enough is enough…

Stop feeling sorry, sorry, sorry

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

No need to worry, worry, worry

Better start looking for someone else

Forgive and forget

I don t believe in wasting time

No point in regrets

Clear your conscience, ease your mind

It won t be your last mistake

Just don t lose your head

You can bend, but you won t break

Enough is enough is enough…

Stop feeling sorry, sorry, sorry

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

No need to worry, worry, worry

Better start looking for someone else

Enough is enough is enough…

Enough is enough is enough…

Enough is enough is enough…

Stop feeling sorry, sorry, sorry

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

No need to worry, worry, worry

Better start looking for someone else

Stop feeling sorry, sorry, sorry

Stop feeling sorry for yourself

No need to worry, worry, worry

Better start looking for someone else

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Что сделано, то сделано,

ты просто знал, что это будет длиться долго.

Так что вставай и ДВИГАЙСЯ,

ВЕСЬ МИР у твоих ног.

Иди в поисках любви, там гораздо больше, чем глаза могут видеть,

Перестань жалеть, извиняться, извиняться.

Перестань жалеть себя.

Не нужно беспокоиться, беспокоиться, беспокоиться,

Лучше начать искать кого-то другого.

Прости и забудь.

Я не верю в трату времени впустую.

Нет смысла сожалеть.

Очисти свою совесть, облегчи свой разум,

Это будет твоей последней ошибкой,

Просто не теряй голову,

Ты можешь согнуться, но ты победил, не сломаешься.

Достаточно, достаточно, достаточно.

Перестань жалеть, извиняться, извиняться.

Перестань жалеть себя.

Не нужно беспокоиться, беспокоиться, беспокоиться,

Лучше начать искать кого-то другого.

Достаточно, достаточно, достаточно.

Достаточно, достаточно, достаточно.

Достаточно, достаточно, достаточно.

Перестань жалеть, извиняться, извиняться.

Перестань жалеть себя.

Не нужно беспокоиться, беспокоиться, беспокоиться,

Лучше начать искать кого-то другого.

Перестань жалеть, извиняться, извиняться.

Перестань жалеть себя.

Не нужно беспокоиться, беспокоиться, беспокоиться,